Why You Should Talk to Your Self Every Day for 5 Minutes

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Why You Should Talk to Your Self Every Day for 5 Minutes

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Recently I have been doing a lot of personal coaching with a guy who came here to the Dominican Republic. A huge thing that we are focusing on is improving his body language. I had him practice interactions in front of the mirror over and over again so he could see how he looked to the girl. I told him he needs to practice in the mirror just 5 minutes every day. This is something I used to do, but stopped.

Being reminded of how important it is, I started doing 5 minutes in the mirror every day. The difference in my game level was obvious. All of a sudden a girl told me “You have a beautiful smile.” Something I hadn’t heard in months. One, then another, then another. They would stare at my face dreamily as I would use my charm. Then, I started hearing how good looking I am. This is something I rarely hear as well. I have studied body language a ton and I had stopped focusing on it for so long that I needed to brush up. The differences in my day game were also astounding. Then, there was the transformation I saw in his body language. I never saw him improve faster than when he would put time in in front of the mirror.


The obvious example of why this is so important

This may sound like a strange thing to say, but it’s 100% true. To improve your body language, one of the best things you can do is talk to yourself every day in the mirror for 5 minutes. Why? Think about this…

Have you ever met somebody who was deaf? Somebody who wasn’t always deaf and still understood how to speak. Think about how these people sound when they try to talk? Is it charming or attractive? No, it’s not. In fact, it’s the complete opposite, but it’s not their fault because they can’t hear themselves talk to check how they sound.


The invention that changed it all

Ever since the invention of mirrors, man has been able to improve their body language because they have finally been able to see how they look when they do certain things. The mirror has given us a ridiculous power and it is the difference (in body language) between a deaf person speaking and somebody with perfect ears. It’s black and white how much more attractive you sound when you can see or hear your self. Now that we have video (I have mentioned a lot that it’s good to webcam with girls just to practice body language), pictures and other things that allow us to see how we look to other people, we should all be taking advantage of this. But even with all the advances in technology, the best  tool is still the mirror.


You must know what attractive body language is to be able to practice it

It’s important why doing this that you understand what attractive male body language is. To do this you should look to the Hollywood heart throbs. These guys make millions of dollars because of their masterful body language. Watch all the James Bond movies, watch George Clooney, Brad Pitt or any other guy that makes women swoon. Once you start studying these guys you will see the patterns that make all these guys so much more attractive than other guys (and it’s not just genetic looks like you imagine).

I have spent a ton of time studying this and have written a book about it: The 9 Laws of Attractive Body Language. A big difference between women and men, is that men can become much more physically attractive just having better body language, whereas women can only improve this slightly. Before you get in front of the mirror trying to improve your attractiveness, you must understand the finished product you want. Getting my book and watching the masters is a good way to do that.

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  • Cedric Roggins

    As for positive affirmations/self talk/visualization/meditation what do you do each day (ie specific things you say etc)?

    I can attest to the power of the mind and a drill I learned from Ross Jeffries products. Basically, you get into a relaxed, deep meditative state and you visualize yourself transcending above the city and see yourself meeting the type of women you desire. I like perky Colombian/Italian looking brunette spinners, redhead blue eyed pale femme fatales, and big tit (bodies like porn star Sara Stone in her prime) blondes. Ivendone this visualization drill 2x and seen women like I desired. I saw a bad ass redhead inna bar once from doing this intensely for 2 days @ 30 min each. Try it out and tell me if it works for you.

    Visualization and results have been applied by many success coaches- Napoleon Hill, Tony Robbins, etc.

    • Yeah I think that kind of stuff is good. It helps your vibe and confidence. Inner game type of stuff.
      But when I’m doing them, I just have charming conversations with myself. Like for example I will do a typical day game open. maybe one direct and one indirect. Then I will do some teasing and just focus on body language. Game changer I tell you

  • Brianmark

    Where is Travel Hardcore? Haven’t heard from him in a while.

    • Just spent the last 2 days with him. He’s on hiatus working and saving for future travels. After he is done working he should be traveling for like 3 years straight. So a lot more from him in the future.

  • Cedric Roggins

    How can a game newbie avoid girls who are trash/long term trouble if a mans objective is a ltr/mother of your child/wife?

    How to find a quality woman (preferably young and Virginia or close to it even if you’re older and want white girls only) would make a good ebook and guys like you are smart enough to know all the pitfalls and how to make it happen.

    • hmm I have actually thought about doing something like this before. I honestly have all the info. Maybe something for the future. A lot of info to tell

    • Cedric Roggins

      I know it will be helpful to a lot of guys.

      We need to have a beer one day 20. I’ve got my eyes on Chaing Mai and Lviv by New Years.

    • I would like that I might be around Lviv before that time.

  • Klaus

    Very good stuff. 20 I hope you don’t mind me asking, but what’s is your game structure, like what’s your basis? Did you learn game with the mystery method? Badboy or lovesystems? I’ve been wondering lately, because your success is an AMAZING thing to watch. I’d really like to know how you started in this game thing, it would also help me in my game direction, since I’m kind of wondering lately with style suits me best, direct or indirect and all these things. Have a good day man, and keep up with the posts, they’re always amazing ;D

    • I started learning Mystery Method, but it actually made me worse. I know it sounds strange, but it just didn’t work for me. There were some things that helped me, but other weird things he taught that made me even worse. From there I started just going on tons of dates. I would get them whatever way I could. I learned just from putting in thousands of hours on women. Pretty much like that. Although when I was younger I was kind of a natural before my video game addictions. I just didn’t have any idea how i did it back then.

  • Patrick

    Idea: 20Nation is also genetically very good looking–a big piece why he’s had excellent success

  • Patrick

    Idea: 20nation is also genetically very good looking–why he’s had so much excellent success

    • Patrick

      Oops–said the first one didn’t post