How to Use Sex: Understanding the Fundamentals of Frame and Achieving Greater Alpha

“All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.”

― George Orwell, Animal Farm

The Greater Alpha

Redpill is a lifestyle and a perspective.  It’s about throwing off social conventions and doing what makes YOU happy.  It means seeing reality for what it is.  That includes the true nature of women, there are no unicorns.

Being an Alpha Male is about improving yourself as a man, being the type of man women want to sleep with and other men want to be.

A Redpill man isn’t necessarily and Alpha Male, and an Alpha Male isn’t necessarily a Redpill Man.

An Alpha Male may harbor a lot misconceptions, get “oneitus” still, think marriage is his only option for the future etc.

A Redpill guy might be some skinny (or fat) basement dweller hung up on the injustice of false rape allegations and unfair child support laws.

It’s a new year.  Time to take the best of both of these ways of life, meld them into what creates the Greater Alpha.

Let’s go.


Part 1: Basics

Most “PUA’s” critics (Pickup Artists, god knows I hate the term) act like “game” is a set of sleazy gimmicks that men use to weasel their way into women’s pants.  This erroneous assumption is not helped by men just learning game who think that if they wear a different kind of shirt, it will make them a different person.

Frame – for the purpose of this post, frame will be a reference to the atmosphere you create, the attraction (or lack of) you build, and way you control (or don’t) the social interactions you have with both men and women.

Game – is more than gimmicky techniques or one liners, in fact, it is simply the frame you as a man project during social interactions. Whether you create attraction or disgust, or even impartiality, that is a result of the frame you bring to the table.

It reminds me of fighting, most people will see a fighter throw a punch, and they will say “Oh he must have a strong arm”.  But the fighter knows that it’s really about how he turns his hips.

But how he turns his hips is all about how he stands, and how he stand is all about his toes.  A fighter can’t throw a hard punch (or series of them) flat footed.

Throwing a hard punch starts with your toes.

And that is what frame is to game.  Frame is where it starts.

And frame is where it ends.

Frame is where it starts and frame is where it ends.


A term that gets thrown around a lot is “Alpha Male”.  Since a better term doesn’t exist at this time, we will use that.

An Alpha Male is simply a man that has a strong and attractive frame, that causes women to feel attraction on an instinctual level.  Women want to fuck him, men want to be him or be friends with him.

Alpha males generally have a stronger level of game, whether its natural or learned, or both.  These men consistently fuck women because women register them as sexually attractive.

Now, among men interested in scoring with women, there is a lot of debate about how to achieve this and it boils down to an almost “which came first? The chicken or the egg” argument.  Some will say that you have to “fake it till you make it” and others will claim you have to build an awesome life for yourself and women will be the byproduct.

For the scope of this article, we will leave that debate alone.  I’ve written quite a bit on How To Double Your Level of Game to cover beginner to intermediate levels on becoming an Alpha Male.

What is not debatable, is that a Greater Alpha can fuck women of all social stratas across the Globe.  Not everyone can become a Greater Alpha the same way not everyone can be an Olympic Gold medalist. In fact, i would say the achievement is just as rare. However, the point remains the same, the frame and level of game you have, is the manifestation of the man you actually are.

In other words, you might be able to get a girls number and even fuck her, but the ability to control her and maintain attraction is the stuff that an Alpha Male possesses.  To consistently fuck quality women, the Greater Alpha leaves a path of destruction.

Whether its one girl or your harem, it boils down to your frame.


Part 2: Genetics

We are animals.  Plain and simple when it comes to sex and what we as humans find attractive, we are driven by a reproductive imperative.

Anyone that disagrees with this self evident truth is a sociology major who’s trying to justify HER education or a White Knight using truly sleazy tactics to score by hiding his actual intentions (which is to ingratiate himself in the hopes of scoring, but he’ll settle for a hug, loser). Do not be fooled by the intellectual bullshit myth that men and women are equal and the only thing  that separates us are our “parts”.

Everything from the hormones we thrive on to the chemistry in our brains that governs the way we think, to the urges we have and the way we choose our mates is different.


Even our university trained intellectuals can’t deny the mating rituals we as humans go through are identical to most animals.

Understanding this concept is key to unlocking your Alpha Male.  You have to be attractive on a primal, instinctual level.

In most social environments today we don’t generally have physical confrontations where men compete for attention (it happens still). Man has a greater intellect than other animals, so it is natural that those arenas have evolved to a more intellectual status quo. Women will test a man’s frame and alphaness through what is widely regarded as shit tests.

His attitude, and frame control evoke to the woman the kind of man he is.

This is a key point, because she makes all sorts of instant assumptions based on this interaction, most importantly, is he a suitable mate or is he a provider.

If he is a suitable mate, she is more inclined to fuck him, if he is a provider, her game then changes accordingly.

Since we are not interested in being providers, we will only explore the long game of the alpha male.

Let’s assume you have a rock solid frame, lets assume you have followed my “How to Double Your Level of Game in 30 Days (or less)” series to the T and you even have something to teach me.

You’re so good, you create Positive Feedback Loops even when you’re being Negative.

You do my traveling workouts as a warmup.

You are that damn badass.

Great, because the next step is understanding that as the Alpha, you aren’t her long game, you’re her hookup.

The Beta Provider is her long game, and her intentions are either to turn you into one, or to find one.

You’re the guy she wants to fuck, not necessarily the guy she wants to marry.

You’re the guy she doesn’t count on her personal notch number, the guy who she met at a club one night, possibly at her own bridal party (done that in Vegas, so cliche). (See point 5 in THC’s observations on women)

Yes, many times she’ll like you and want to see you again (usually a girl that hasn’t been riding the cock carousal for too long) which will make things a lot easier.

*Conversely, a girl that has been on the cock carousal knows what you are, and doesn’t want to “be hurt” by another badboy.


So, given all that, let’s assume you want this girl in your rotation.

In either situation, Hell in ALL situations, you control women with lower lip biting, toe curling, little girl whining, gushing and squirting orgasms.

All the way up until you swallow the red pill, it’s women using sex to control men, we are going to flip the script!

Women fall in love with you when you Make them feel special + Make them feel feminine

Make them feel special + Make them feel feminine

When they love you, you have the power.

She does not have the analytical power to understand that she loves you because you make her cum like no man before you, she only knows you make her feel like she has never felt before.

You will become the man she desperately needs and is terrified of losing.

THC wrote and excellent post on the power shift after sex.

I don’t want to hear any whining about how women are equal and that’s immoral etc etc.

Woman are like children (yes yes, so are most men since they are beta males but I’m not wanting to date/bang them), and we’ve all seen those little brats running around behaving poorly when they aren’t put in check. So don’t preach to me about respecting children. Women crave to be disciplined and align themselves with a stronger male persona. This is a primal, genetic, trait. Arguing against it is a waste of all of our time.

This is the true nature of women, and being and Alpha Male + Being a Red Pill man, is the only way to becoming a Greater Alpha, if you have what it takes.

Alpha Male + Being a Red Pill man is the only way to becoming a Greater Alpha


Part 3: Understanding the 3 Types of Female Orgasm


The Clitoral Orgasm

Women release the hormone OXYTOCIN during sex, the more intimate and powerful the pleasure for her, the more you will own her ass.


Of course this requires frame congruency on your part as a man.  You must be the alpha before, during, and after sex.

The most common orgasm a woman has is the Clitoral Orgasm.  Most people know you can stimulate her to climax with your hands or tongue or when fucking you can angle your body so it gets rubbed by your rock hard abs.

The sensation is localized to the genitalia and while it is close to a males orgasm, it is the least powerful of the three.

The Internal Orgasm

Many women don’t experience this with their boyfriend, it takes a level of comfort for a woman to let herself achieve this and consistency by her partner. You as a man have to put consistent rhythm  and constant pressure on her G-spot (located about an inch inside and on the roof of her pussy). When you finally start hitting it with your fingers or dick, you will know as it will swell. Also for fucks sake don’t keep changing your rhythm, that will throw her off and she’ll have to start over. Constant rhythm and consistent pressure is the key.

Also dirty talk, frame control in bed, and general expertise will allow her to reach this level of pleasure. As a man you need to educate yourself on this. The internal orgasm reverberates throughout her from the inside and is much more powerful than the clitoral orgasm.

If you make a girl cum internally, you will make her fall in love with you.

The Squirting Orgasm

Only women who can have an internal orgasm can have a squirting orgasm which is the most powerful of all, it is a full body orgasm. I am personally jealous of women for being able to achieve this. Imagine the feeling of cumming coursing through your entire body.

To make a woman squirt you need to understand the physics behind it as well as biologically what is taking place.

First, many women never achieve internal orgasms because they have the sensation that they have to pee just before they cum.  They don’t want to piss on the guy so they hold themselves back.

Just like a man’s penis is capable of passing both semen and urine, so is a woman capable of releasing female ejaculate as well as urine.  The trouble is, they don’t know their own bodies as well as I’m about to inform you.

There is a gland known as the Skene’s gland which houses female ejaculate, when a woman gets the sensation she’s about to take a piss from the pressure of you fucking her, that is actually a sign that shes about to squirt.

As I mentioned before, when women are self conscious about peeing on you, they won’t allow themselves to relax enough, which in turn keeps them from cumming.

It isn’t urine. And even if it was, who the fuck cares? You’re about to be a God to her and now you’re hung up on which bodily fluid is which? Not Alpha.


Moving on, explaining this to her will get her excited to try it. Making her feel comfortable and letting her know “just push it out” when she get’s the sensation she needs to pee will make her feel and see fireworks.

You will be elevated to the status of her master.

How to Start

Its in your best interest to learn to manually stimulate the girl with your hand before trying to do this with your cock.

1) It’s already hard to generate this pressure and

2) learning it by hand (pun intended) will allow you to understand the angle and pressure your cock needs to generate.

Below is a video outlining the process:

Educate yourself further:

How to give a woman a powerful G spot orgasm



Part 4: Frame Control in Bed

Rough sex trumps gentle loving every time.

When you fuck her, you have to fuck her like the Alpha she met (congruency). This seems obvious but many men for some inexplicable reason, will start being all sensitive and try and make love. My theory for this is because women start acting like wounded little lambs, whimpering in distress when they’re about to be fucked. It’s because they WANT you to take them.  The beta male will instinctively white knight and likely trigger her reflex to abort the whole affair.

The Alpha Male will do what a Lion does when it hears a wounded animal and go in for the kill.

Remember, women want to feel feminine, especially in bed.  You do this by taking control, firmly and with the right amount of aggressiveness melded with a dash of gentle yet masculine power to achieve this.

Looking her in the eyes, telling her you own her, telling her she was made for you to fuck. Making her open her mouth and spitting in it, spitting on her face, baby smacking her face, her tits, really throwing down on her ass leaving big red handprints, making her tell you that’s your pussy, and on and on. That’s what bonds her to you, that’s the Greater Alpha Male Long Game.

I have had the bitchiest girls of all time turn into little purring kittens after making them cum. They become docile little creatures that adore you and yes, it’s another flaw in the female makeup, but it is once again, the ugly machinery behind the pretty curtain that is a woman. Understanding and accepting women for how they are is part of being a Red Pill Man, being the man that can bang her this way is part of being an Alpha Male. Putting these two things together is what it takes to be a Greater Alpha.

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50 Comments on “How to Use Sex: Understanding the Fundamentals of Frame and Achieving Greater Alpha”

  1. How do you deal with fragile vagina syndrome? Even if she’s pretty wet, it seems to hurt her if you push up like you should with the ‘internal orgasm’ and many other angles. Fingers or dick. I don’t think it’s a size issue since there are girls her height who didn’t have the same problem. But their pussy had a bigger labora majora vs this girl, which doesn’t have much of one.

    1. Love the article and the redtube video! Alpha males who take charge are fucking hot!!!

  2. “Understanding and accepting women for how they are is part of being a Red Pill Man”
    I like that, I think too many men in the “manosphere” (what a name…) take the red pill but don’t digest it, it got stuck in their throat and they can’t move on and they get too negative and misogynistic.

    1. Agreed, it’s easy to get sucked into being negative about them but it doesn’t change anything.

  3. Bro-science question for Fisto. If a girl stops you in the middle of good sex because she has to pee, does that mean she is about to squirt?

  4. I’m all for a little spanking and hair pulling, but I’ve never thought of spitting them in their face. Has this never backfired?

    1. You gotta amp up the intensity of the encounter, you have to escalate by kissing her and making her swallow big drips of saliva, then when you start fucking her tell her to open her mouth, she may say no. Tell her “DO IT”. She will whimper and then do it, and let it drip right in there. Then when you get going hard and the smacking ensues let her rip. It’s not for everyone, but you’ll likely be THE ONLY ONE that does it to her. And that’s leaving a mark.

  5. Strong content. Sadly I think most guys tend to lose frame after sex because
    1.They were putting up a front as their frame/game
    2.They become pussy whooped

  6. Fisto, when I first read your posts on RVF you seemed like a total meathead who nailed girls based on looks and being “Alpha”. Clearly it’s more than that, you seem to really understand this stuff at a deeper level which I’m sure contributes to a lot of your success. Good shit man, looking forward to more posts.

    1. Damn well, I’m sorry I came off that way but also glad to hear you changed your opinion!

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  8. linked to this article and is trying to stir the smelly pot of mockery. Silly Male feminists. *eyeroll*

  9. Mangina over at David Futrelle (don’t visit the site, he won’t approve your comments) decided to focus in on my one comment about spitting in a girls mouth and wrote a whole article saying that’s what this article at swoop is about. The commenters say I’m a rapist and committing sexual abuse even though there is nothing in this article to promote doing something against someone else’s will. I find it telling that his readers assume it’s not consensual. I suspect they are projecting their own sexual fantasies onto what is written here. News flash feminists, when someone voluntarily complies with something you tell them to do, and they are sexually aroused by it, it isn’t rape.

    1. Actually Fisto, your comments were approved over on Manboobz, and your contributions have made for a livelier than usual discussion in the comments thread.

      And you’re quoting George Orwell out of context.

  10. Hate to rain on your parade… but basically it doesn’t depend on you. It all about the woman’s fantasy. I had squirting orgasm with only one guy in my life and that is why I am still in love with him. It wasn’t the reason why I am with him but it was a sign that my romance will last. And he was not the most experienced (definitely he didn’t spill in my mouth, it doesn’t turn me on anyway, but some stuff you are telling are sort of turning on things for many girls). I had sexual partners before him that could be even more experienced about all those G-point etc and they could mechanically make me feel orgasm but it was like if you’d hurt your elbow right on a nerve. It was awkward as if your muscles have involuntarily contraction. And these other guys were close to be perfect physically. Actually later I figured that if guy is a little overweight it turns me more and I really don’t like stone solid abominate. I guess humans always want to control what we can’t. No, you can’t force it. The girl should feel something to you first and all it is in her brain. I don’t know how it happened, I did try to analyze it. But there is no logical reasons for that. It is like a magic. But if it is there girl would like everything about you – your smell, your farts, your jokes, she would be ready to pay your bills for you, basically yes, you’ll be her God, The only problem is it doesn’t depend on you.

    1. Oh man….This comment has so much hamstering in it I almost don’t know where to begin.

      ” I had squirting orgasm with only one guy in my life and that is why I am still in love with him.”

      So basically, everything I said is 100% correct.

      “And these other guys were close to be perfect physically. Actually later I figured that if guy is a little overweight it turns me more and I really don’t like stone solid abominate.”

      Sure they were…..meanwhile in the real world, most women prefer men that are in shape.

      “The girl should feel something to you first and all it is in her brain. I don’t know how it happened, I did try to analyze it. But there is no logical reasons for that. It is like a magic.”

      Yeah, I pointed this out in my original post “She does not have the analytical power to understand that she loves you because you make her cum like no man before you, she only knows you make her feel like she has never felt before.”

      “But if it is there girl would like everything about you – your smell, your farts, your jokes, she would be ready to pay your bills for you, basically yes, you’ll be her God”

      Yeah, I also say this in my original post “Women release the hormone OXYTOCIN during sex, the more intimate and powerful the pleasure for her, the more you will own her ass.”

      Finally you say “The only problem is it doesn’t depend on you.”

      But I’ll remind you of your very first realization from the very same comment “I had squirting orgasm with only one guy in my life and that is why I am still in love with him”

      So who does it depend on??

      Sorry lady but as hard as you’re trying to disagree with my post you’re simply validating it’s key points.

  11. Women don’t have analytical power? Yeah, ok, sure. I was just thinking the other day, “The way to a woman’s heart is through her vagina”. Does that make me a man? You’re the one who lacks analytical power, Fisto. If you had even a modicum, you would find some decent peer-reviewed research to back up your claim because you’d be interested in crafting a scientific argument. Then again, maybe it’s the dumb asses who accept your claim based on their own biases who need to improve their critical-thinking skills.

    1. The rest of the article is pretty good. I see the merit. I also have no issue with men trying to become more sexually attractive. However, for me personally, I can only orgasm with men to whom I am highly physically attracted. I would think that would have to be the foundation, contrary to this lie I see that confidence is all a man needs. Also, I can turn off romantic/sexual love, but perhaps I am just an outlier. The guy who has/had the most control over me is a total hottie with brains to boot. Hands-down, he is the best in the dominating department that I’ve ever had (absolute dynamite), once in a blue moon enjoys being dominated by me, and treats me so sweetly outside of the bedroom (but still leads, which I enjoy). That mixture is intoxicating. It’s all about balance and being natural. A guy who tries too hard to be “alpha” is a guy with a facade through which I can easily see. Not every woman can be conventionally beautiful. Not every guy can be alpha; I don’t think some men are hormonally capable. Again, I am just one woman, so this is an anecdotal evidence disclaimer! Just an outsider’s opinion.

    2. Physical attraction and chemistry are a must. This is not really the topic of discussion.

      Agreed about trying too hard, also not really the topic of discussion….however you bring up a good point, there should be a contrast in action to emphasize the endearing qualities you bring up. An alpha that displays some well timed tenderness for example can be the thing she’s telling her friends about and not the fact that you were having her yell “I’m your dirty little slut”.

      Great point patricia.

    3. Patricia, my sample size of women is large enough to draw these conclusions. I am the one doing the research. I don’t expect anyone to accept my claims blindly, they are more than welcome to go into the field and confirm what I say for themselves. It is noteworthy that you can’t use analytical power to read this article without being personally offended however.

    4. Oh, please, men enjoy being stereotyped by women about as much as I do by men, so don’t play that fucking game. Being offended does not relate to your level analytical prowess if the source of your offense consists of something that is anti-intellectual.

      Your experiment really has way too many other variables. It requires a more controlled environment. As a woman, I know a lot of women and they tell me shit. Most know exactly why they love someone. My first love had nothing to do with making me cum (because he wasn’t particularly good at it); it lasted 5 years from high school to college and I would have followed him around the world because I wanted to see him succeed in his particular career choice (now that I’ve had some really good sex, cumming well is a must). I know exactly why I loved him. Maybe you just associate with dumb women? How many women have you actually asked this question?

    5. Look cupcake, you can’t have it both ways, we both know you are begrudgingly agreeing with what I’m saying so knock off all the mental masterbation. There are no studies that can take away the variables you’re suggesting skew my results. It’s no secret that women fall for a man that makes them feel good, and when I say “MOST WOMEN” (you seem to be nitpicking about this word) fall in love with a man that makes them cum like never before, that is an accurate observation based on empiricism.

      And don’t “Oh please” me and then give me that tired ass “you must not know any smart women” argument. I know a lot of well educated women and they like to feel good just as much as the dumb ones.

    6. You misread.

      I was disagreeing with your comment about women lacking the analytical power to understand their own feelings. I wasn’t disagreeing with your premise that cumming is a best way to a woman’s heart.

      The whole “cumming” thing was an aside, really. I was trying to explain why I knew I loved him in this particular case. The reason we broke up was partially related to sex so, really, it all supports your argument about making a woman cum.

    7. In order to make a blanket statement, like women lack analytical power to do such and such, you really need better evidence than “I say so” or “my observations”.

      If women lacked the analytical power to do something as simple as analyze a feeling, one would think their cognitive skills would be sufficiently lacking.

      And, with that, I must depart.

    8. Want me to post some studies on how many women are seeing therapists for just that reason or would you like to go find the information for yourself?

    9. You’re ignoring the fact that therapy is widely considered more acceptable for women…or, the fact that women feel the need to understand their feelings. Again, that is way too indirect to make a generalization like that. You didn’t even say “most”!

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  15. Your assessment is spot on. I’ve been putting all these things to practice for years and every girl I ever sleep with falls head over heels in love with me. Often times I have them squirting on our first sexual encounter. I’ve found that with great power comes great responsibility.

  16. Well, I’m a big fan of the blog and usually agree with almost everything. However, the whole ‘squirting’ orgasm thing has been found to be bunk. I’ve read a study on this where they analyzed samples of the stuff from a group of women who claimed to have them (it’s a recent trend, for the most part, promoted in porn vids). The results of the analysis showed that the samples were only urine.

    Having said that, I can well imagine that those women enjoy that sensation perhaps more than an orgasm without pissing all over themselves. Pissing is a nice feeling. I had a chick have such an orgasm once, it didn’t really bother me, but it’s not really my thing to have pissy sheets to later sleep on.

    Spitting seems unnecessary. Sharing spit is maybe something to do if you are really close with someone, just to share everything that can be shared, but spitting on somebody’s face if you don’t know them well would often be taken as disrespect. Some girls like to be disrespected, but not the type I like.

    When you said what you said about rough sex being better than love-making, I have to strongly disagree. If you only do rough sex you are really missing out. Once in a while you and your partner will be so horny that it will be over the top and wild like that. But usually the best sex starts out gently and slowly builds up. For sure, everybody likes it wild for the last part, or to build up, and then slow it down again, each time building up more. Obviously you have to keep it steady and consistent when it comes time for her to get her end off, agreed on that.

    Different strokes for different folks, as they say. But in general, love-making is what can really addict a woman for a lifetime. It all depends on what you want. If you want to hit and run, or if you want to have a soul to soul connection. For me it has always been about soul to soul connections, whether or not I’m hittin’ and runnin’.

    Porn vid style shagging will probably have you remembered by most for a long time, but love-making with a soul to soul connection will make you the dream that got away. Porn vid style never lasts, it gets old and becomes same same. Love-making always becomes deeper and deeper.

    You’ll find the physical bang doesn’t fulfill you as you mature more. Numbers start to seem meaningless. You’ll look back and remember the ones you really connected with on the mental and spiritual level more. It’s a natural evolution.

    1. I don’t have the analytical power to be terrified of losing any man.

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  18. I’ve read both the article and the ensuing discussion and I think the truth is that to make up for a long term relationship are both the emotional stimulation and the following love making. The two things reinforce themselves instead of one triggering the other. It’s a bit like which came first, eggs or chicken: the answer is both.

  19. One more thought: reading about the Alpha male has been fun but I don’t think that one can apply that behaviour artificially to himself after having read what to do. One must feel it as his own nature and if one does certainly he doesn’t need an article to explain him, unless he can act a little bit, which will still be fine but short lived. All in all I think is better to be an authentic Beta male (like myself, hahah) than a contrived Alpha male just for the sake of having one off sex with a lot of girls. Surely life amount to more than that. But it will be fun to have a try though, heheh.

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