Want Your Game to Be Congruent? Think: "Life is Awesome"
Do you feel fake running Game? Like you're being a clown for girls?

Chances are, it's because at your core, you're not a happy person.

But what do you have to be unhappy about?

If you could do something about it, you'd change it. And if it's something you can't change, it makes no sense to think about it and be unhappy.

Still thinking about it? That means your identity and ego are tied to it. Cutting yourself off from it would be like cutting yourself off from your identity and ego. Many would rather physically die than let this connection go.

Did you read that last sentence? As in really understand it? What I just said is that this connection would be the death of you. One way or another, this unhappiness is going to prevent you from living the life you want.

So, how do you separate yourself from your identity and ego? Simple - let them go. Focus on something else, even as simple as your breathing, for as long as you can, if only for a moment. Things you can focus on other than breathing include lifting, gaming girls, working - pretty much anything that requires your concentration.

The next time you find yourself unhappy, see if you can shift your focus away. It's like anything else - you'll only get good with practice.

Once you're good, you'll realize, "life is awesome." Not necessarily in a woo party way, but at least in a more contented way.

At that point, your Game will be much more congruent - clown no more.

Inspiration for this post came from the book, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle. It's a long-winded slog at times, but a good message.
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Pick that book up a couple of months ago to put into my list of reading, Just started it this pass week.
Excellent post and this deserves a bump.
Danger and Play did a post like this one. If you can cook steaks, down some fancy wine, have cool friends, and live by the woods to do camping (or whatever interests you) you're living the life. You eventually will find a girl that will want to be part of your life. I just butter poached some fish and savored my homemade meal. I also have some french toast that's infused with orange liquor and Madagascar vanilla beans baking in the oven. About a week ago I took a break after months of work to have fun. I made my pitch to this hot Latina and she passed so fuck her. Lots of lonely girls out there.

My life has improved dramtically over the past 5 years. My game has been slow to catch up but that was learning to deal with knuckleheads on a daily basis, not running around at 1AM looking for tail and not making money. I didn't have time to read the latest game theory when I was out making money and making sure I wasn't getting stepped on.
I've always liked two quasi-religious quotes on this subject. The first from Alcoholics Anonymous on life problems/unhappiness:

Quote:"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference."

I'm not religious at all, and wouldn't subscribe to the prayer part of it. But being able to accurately assess your problems, not worry about things you can't change, and work on things you can change, is 100% the right life attitude to have about problems.

And the second from Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism:
Quote:If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are peace you are living in the present.

Its easy to say "don't worry, be happy". But surprisingly few people bother to actually try it, in my experience.

It makes perfect sense that being happy would improve your game, though. Everyone, man or woman, prefers to spend their time around happy, positive people.

It just has to be real happiness, actually coming from contentedness within - and not the fake "everything is great, I'm doing great, as long we don't actually talk about my life" facade a lot people project.
I’d add two things

1) have a purpose that drives you outside of pickup - There needs to be a large purpose to your life, that you can fall back on if things get tough. This will make you happier and less attached to the outcome

2) Optimize your health - it is a lot easier to be happy if you feel good physically. Optimize your hormones. Fix any deficiencies. Eat clean. And lift weight regularly

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