Cagayan de Oro girls make you feel like a rock star

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Day one: My first Cagayan de Oro girl

20Nation was exploring some second tier cities in the Philippines and he was having a great time in Cagayan de Oro (CDO), a city in Mindanao famous for its whitewater rafting and kayaking adventures. My visa was about to expire in Thailand, so I decided to visit him in CDO for my second trip to the Philippines.

One of his regular girls he knew from before was visiting him at that moment, she had flew in from Davao to spend a few days with him. A cute little girl, a little bit shy but very caring of him.

I arrived on a Friday so we decided to go out and party with the three of us.

I didn’t really pipeline, but I got one Cagayan de Oro girl’s number from DateInAsia, her name was Fay. While we’re having some drinks Fay sends me a text that’s she’s at a party nearby and that it’s pretty good. I tell her we’ll come over in a while.

The dance club

Fay wasn’t lying, the club was pretty packed and there’s a live band on stage playing popular dance and pop songs. The lead singer is a cute ass Pinay wearing a tight silver colored mini dress.

“I want to smash the singer of that band”, I tell 20Nation.

“She’s hot man, no way.” he replies.

“Challenge accepted!”


As I’m thinking how to approach the situation, Fay finds me and taps me on the shoulder.

I join her and her friends upstairs for a drink while I leave 20Nation and his girl to dance down stairs on the big dance floor in front of the stage. Her friends are the typical skinny Pinoy guys, they are friendly and don’t make any attempt to cockblock me. After the drink I grab Fay by her hand and take her to dance.

The grinder

I meet 20Nation on the dance floor, he’s grinding with his girl. My girl is still a little bit more shy and keeps some distance while dancing. A lot of other girls are checking me out. When you go to second tier cities in the Philippines your exotic value is twice as high easily, so the moment Fay left for a second other girls literally jumped in to dance with me.

One of them was set on showing her not all Cagayan de Oro girls are shy and started some dirty dancing, grinding her ass on me. When Fay came back I gave her look like “Look, I can’t help this, these girls won’t leave me alone”.

I was doubting for a second to make a move on the new girl but I decided to stick with my girl Fay, she was acting a bit more shy but she had a “still waters run deep” kind of look in her eyes. I stop dancing with the new girl and take Fay’s hand again, this time she’s not taking the risk of losing me again; we immediately start making out and the dancing gets more sexual.

Now my value to her is through the roof:

“Every girl here wants you!” she screams in my ear over the music.

“I know.”


20Nation and me are the only two white guys in the club and we attract a lot of attention. I feel like a rock star and that I could get any girl in this club.

The band announces they are going to take a 5 minute break.

This is my moment, I decide to make a ballsy move.

“Watch this”, I tell 20Nation.

Before the band could leave the stage, I move myself to the side of the dance floor, climb onto the stage, walk over to the lead singer who was about to leave backstage and tap her on the shoulder.

“Hey, I really like your band. What’s the name of your band?”

She reacts confused, but I remain unfazed and confident. I want to keep the interaction very short, all people on the dance floor and the people from the second floor are still facing the stage and I feel the whole club is watching me.

“Here”, I discretely give her a piece of paper with my number, “my name is THC, what’s your name?”

“Diamond” she replies.

“Okay Diamond, send me text later and we can go for a drink”.

“Euhm… ok?!”

I walk off the stage back to 20Nation and the two girls. They couldn’t hear the conversation so I tell Fay “I just requested a song” while I wink at 20. He knew what went down.

Dirty sex

We leave the club and my girl is all over me. Seeing the other girls all over me and me blowing them off got her head over heels. We arrive in my hotel room and there’s no LMR (last minute resistance); the still waters run deep look is confirmed: She’s a freak, I smash her hard, she gives me a rim job and asks me to cum in her mouth.



Day 2 in Cagayan de Oro: Giving out your number

The next day head out with 20Nation to the local shopping mall.


We are experimenting some more with handing out our numbers on a piece of paper after a short interaction. This is a great approach for CDO or any 2nd tier city where your value is really high. A lot of girls are actually intimidated when you approach them, if you ask for her number she might even say no because she doesn’t know how to react. This is an auto-pilot reaction , it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not interested.

If you give her your number she has time to compose herself and then she realizes she’s actually lucky to have your number. From our experiment 9 out of 10 girls that we handed out our numbers to replied to us within a few hours of meeting them.

Horrible approach

This example will show that even a horrible approach is better than no approach at all. I saw a young cutie walking in front of us, moreover she had something positive random for me. I really liked her, she was looking sexy and was wearing nice clothes. I speed up my walking to catch up with her but before I got close enough she had already walked into a coffee shop and was now in queue at the register.

A bad moment to approach but I say fuck it and walk in the coffee shop. The moment I tap her on the shoulder she was just paying her coffee at the register, what a bad timing.

She reacts confused and annoyed, but I give her the piece of paper with my number, she just replies: “Yeah, whatever!”, but she does accept the paper.

After the fun interactions from before this felt like a crash and burn. 20Nation had witnessed the interaction and we agreed it looked bad. I shrug it off, “you can’t win them all”, but 15 minutes later I get her text.

“Sorry for my reaction I was nervous. The girl from the coffee shop”.

Boom. This is why you  should not read the initial reaction as disinterest but as intimidation. I call her back; she’s still in the coffee shop so I join her and we have a laugh about her scared reaction. We agree to meet up later that night for a drink at 8 pm, conveniently near my hotel on Plaza Divisoria.

Cagayan de Oro hotel

Double booked

I actually had a good time talking with her at the coffee shop so I was excited to see her that night.

I’ve been getting some more texts from unknown numbers and it was hard to keep track of them, I had no idea who I was texting with. It’s an inherent side effect of this approach where you give out your numbers. Then I get a text that I was definitely sure off who sent it:

Hi, it’s Diamond. How are you?

Yes. The singer. She sent.

We message a bit back and forth and I try to set up a date, but she’s playing hard to get and is being vague. In that short approach on stage I didn’t get to build much attraction so I knew it would be very easy to lose this girl if I came across as needy.

So I just stopped replying.

The silence works as a charm, later that night I get a new message from Diamond:

Okay, I can meet tonight

Shit, it was already 7 pm, looks like I’m double booked now. I hate to cancel on that sweet girl last moment but I had to take a shot at the singer. The poor girl asked my why I cancelled on her, I tell it’s work related.


Cagayan de Oro girl - Plaza DivisoriaDiamond texts me she’s at the bar in front of my hotel so I walk down to meet her. We sit down and order some beers when I see another girl sitting at in the corner of my eye:

It’s Coffee shop girl.

She had decided to show up at the date anyway. She was trying to hide her face because she saw I was there with another girl. Talk about a change in attitude, from “whatever” to showing up at the date even though I cancelled.

I tried to avoid eye contact at all cost not to make it more awkward. I had to focus on the price: Diamond.

The date goes well, we end up in my hotel room with another lame excuse, probably “let’s watch my travel pictures”. Like girls don’t know what’s going on *women eye roll*

There’s MASSIVE LMR, but I’m unstoppable. Push-pull, freeze-outs, caveman-romantic, I bust through it and get the lay.

Challenge completed.

I don’t have afterglow often anymore but that time I did.


What did we learn in Cagayan de Oro?

  • Your exotic value in 2nd tier cities is twice as high. Cagayan de Oro girls made me feel like a rock star.
  • Giving out your numbers on a piece of paper (day game) is a good approach.
  • Don’t misread the auto-pilot reaction. The negative reaction may be intimidation rather than disinterest.
  • Make a bold move from time to time, get out of your comfort zone. You can achieve more than you expect.
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I’m TravelHardcore, but people simply call me THC, although I don’t smoke. I speak several languages and suffer from insomnia. I left a well paying job, stuck in a miserable office to go out and see the world. I simply live for adventure. Cheers.

  • Josh Bar

    The jealousy plot on the dance floor I love it.
    “a horrible approach is better than no approach at all” yup
    Yea man cancel on the coffee shop girl to go for what u really want!
    Then I read she was at the date too I literally was like NOOOOO!
    But you still got it done. I really enjoyed this one.

    • Yeah when I saw her it threw me off a bit, luckily Diamond didn’t notice it.

    • snbatman

      That and coffee girl didn’t insert herself into the interaction either. Really dodged a bullet there, but I have confidence you could have still “won” so to speak!

  • snbatman

    A lot easier to pull off the Jealous/Dread Game when the girls in the venue literally do 99% of the work for you, but still awesome in having the balls to make the move on the singer and fighting through that extremely awkward situation when the coffee shop girl showed up too.

    • For real, I only had to watch myself not to OVER play the jealousy plot at that dance club.

  • Lacedric T

    THC, Fisto, and 20-
    Are any of you guys California natives???

    I want to know if LA, OC, San Diego, or The Bay Area, or CHico State are worth gaming? What about Seattle or Portland??? Basically, any major cities on the West Coast?

    • Demoneater

      I live in the Bay Area. It is ground zero for gender feminism. Portland and Seattle, with all their nasty bitchy overweight punk/grunge chicks, are not far behind. Read here:

      Chico, by virtue of being a small town, will give you an edge if your game is good. But I doubt it’s worth the trip.

    • Lacedric T

      Appreciate the feedback.

      Ive heard Portland is slob, half ass metro. Seattle has pockets of quality but the passive aggressive bitches with their unreasonable arrogance and Seattle freeze are the majority.
      Chico people are a little corny-they are a true small town binge drinker crowd.

      What about San Diego? Not thrilled about all the GI Joes but the Latinas, proximity to Tiajuana, and La Jolla white girls sound promising.

      San Luis Obispo?
      Close to Big Sur.

      Close to Tahoe.

      Can’t be worse the Boise or Billings.

      Ive been to LA-IE-OC-logistics suck and its very $$$ but OC Beaches and Santa Barbara are the best/own Floridas weirdo fest of wading pools and swamp vistas in the Peoples Republic of Murica’

    • Demoneater

      I’ve never bee to San Diego, but I have a strong feeling that you would probably have better prospects there than in any other major West Coast city due to its (relatively) conservative bend and proximity to a foreign country. Foreign girls are really where it’s at, in my book. Probably why I read this blog LMAO.

      I’ve been to SLO once for a brief moment, gave me a Santa Cruz / Humboldt vibe but can’t really say what the tail would be like there, other than it’s a small town which is a plus.

      Sacramento is a like an overgrown version of Chico, Fresno, or Redding; hot valley town with lots of bored kids, alcoholics and drug users. Come to think of it, you would have even better prospects in Sacramento than San Diego because its a relatively large population town with a small-town feel. Not a lot of shit to do there, not a lot of sophistication (it’s not an international city by any stretch of the imagination), and plenty of bored girls. Out of all the cities you listed I’d probably go with this one.

      Spokane I have never visited, but I do know that it’s a relatively isolated Pacific Northwestern town with a modest 200-250k population surrounded by gorgeous nature and tons of recreational opportunities. I have a good feeling that you could find some quality women there if you’ve got extra time to invest in looking. If you got a thing for outdoor recreation and small-town girls then I’d say this could be a good choice for a dual-purpose vacation during the summer. The only X-factor is the weather; WA is notorious for rain. I don’t know if it would be an issue in Spokane during the summer but best to double check that one.

    • Lacedric T

      The more research I do-the more I like San Diego. If the beaches there are as good as Santa Barbara, Newport Beach, or Laguan Beach then its a very refreshing place. I know after a long week-I’d rather go to the Beach than listen to indie rock, drink coffee and micro brews, and drive 1hr. to get to some woods. I have no doubt Seattle is has good culture, food, etc but all that rain and passive aggressive junk is annoying-I’m like a Jersey Italian or a machismo Tex-Mex dude in Dallas-all that passive-aggressive stuff they do in Seattle would lead to a brawl in the streets with me. I won’t take it.

    • CB

      The county of San Diego is conservative. The city is not so much.

      -resident, born and raised.

    • Demoneater

      I imagine that’s more image than reality. Like Femen, liberals tend to be vocal. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, as I’m sure they know.

      But what about all those primarily Spanish-speaking, Catholic Latina girls? Are they also liberal? I doubt it.

    • patriciabateman

      Neither, as I’ve noticed. Actually, pretty liberal. I went to high school with many of them. But, that’s just my experience. As for the actual statistics, I have no idea.

      East County is pretty conservative due to a lot of white trash. North county is conservative because residents have $.
      The city of SD actually has a very liberal government at the moment. Ok, SD is nowhere near SF; I agree with that.

    • patriciabateman

      Votes by party in San Diego County in 2012 were 45% GOP and 52% Democratic. And, that’s the county, not the city. I dgaf either way; I’m an independent. But, as a San Diegan born and raised, I think you’re misrepresenting.

    • CB

      San Diego: born and raised. You will have a lot of competition from men. There are a lot of good-looking, relatively educated guys imo. Naval officers are my favorite. La Jolla I mostly associate with wealthy, older people (unless you’re talking about UCSD students). You would have better luck in the Gaslamp or PB/Mission Beach.

  • waze92

    Great article as always.

    Just for my own curiosity (I haven’t traveled anywhere like this yet, but want to), are any of you guys tall and blonde? I hear that gives you even more exotic value in places like this. Do you reckon I would still have a fair bit of exotic value being 5’10 and brown haired?

    Thanks guys, keep up the good work.

    • The average height in the Philippines is pretty short 5’4 – 5’5 (164cm) so 5’10 will still stand out.

  • obmon

    I wonder if the negative reaction of intimidation is actually present in girls from the west as well.. only culture for them has balanced the scale towards not taking the shot… (peers would call her creepy for dating a creepy guy).

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  • keenan88

    What exactly is a 2nd tier city?

    • A city that is not a bigger city (not so international and doesn’t get many travelers so your value is higher)

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  • Shiri Bbmusang

    Pinay wants a white man because of money .. for a better future .. thats all..