The Sweetest Girl in the World

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the sweetest girl in the world

The Sweetest Girl in the World

the sweetest girl in the world

I was in a brand new city in Eastern Ukraine and I still hadn’t bought my SIM card. I had a meeting with a friend in 30 minutes, all I had to do was get to a particular mall. The problem, I had no idea where this mall was. All I knew was that I could somehow get there by using the subway. At the time, I was annoyed I had been too lazy to get a SIM card, but later I would be happy because that evening is when I met the sweetest girl in the world.

 

Lost in the Subway

I found the subway entrance and figured out how to buy a ticket. It was 3 Hryvnias (about 11 cents). The escalator brought me deeper and deeper below the city and when it arrived at the bottom I immediately realized I was going to have to ask for directions. The first person who walked by was a teenage boy. I thought about asking him because of the time constraint on my situation, but then I thought to myself “Wtf. I’m 20Nation, I don’t waste opportunities like this to talk to beautiful women.”

I walked around for a few minutes before spotting a particularly attractive brunette girl sitting with her friend. As I walked over to the two girls I hoped the attractive one spoke English. Knowing my luck, it would be the unattractive friend.

“Excuse me, do any of you speak English?” I asked.

“Yes I speak a little.” I heard a thick accent. Lady luck was smiling on me today because the girl who spoke was the attractive brunette.

“I’m a little lost. I’m trying to get to this place.” I pointed to an image on my phone.

The attractive brunette stood up to reveal her thin body on a 5’3″ frame. She looked at the image on Google maps I was pointing to.

“You want get on different track.” she responded in a very sweet and feminine voice. I knew it was time to turn on the charm.

I looked her straight in the eye and used my well practiced, charming smile. My heart skipped a beat as she reciprocated the smile, but hers was even more genuine.

She tried to explain how I could arrive at the mall. Then, mid-sentence she said “If you want I can show you.”

“Ok.” I responded.

She said goodbye to her friend and went with me to find the other subway line. Her English wasn’t great, but it was much better than my Russian. She took the subway with me all the way to the mall and during this time we found out more and more about each other.

“What do you do for work?” I asked this sweet girl.

“I work with autistic children.” She responded.

“Wow.” I said, wondering for the first time if this really was the sweetest girl in the world.

“I worked something other before, but I was not happy. I changed job and now I am happy.”

Even the way she looked at me seemed sweet. Her eyes were almost smiling whenever I would say something. She was a bit shy, but not enough that she wasn’t engaging.

After 15 minutes or so, we walked out of the subway together and she pointed to a big building in front of us.

“That’s the mall where you will meet your friend.”

“Thanks for everything.” I said.

I knew it was time to go for the number. I stared into her eyes as I asked if she wanted to meet again.

“Yes. I would.” She said with her sweet smile. She seemed very happy I asked.

 

The Dates

I tried to set up a date and saw that she wanted this date as much as I did. We set it for the following evening after she finished work.

Winter had obviously arrived as I walked toward our date location. It was cold enough to see my breath and my sweater coat was obviously not enough.

She was already there when I arrived at the meetup location. Her sweet smile spread across her face as soon as she saw me. I knew it was going to be a good date.

I was right and time with her flew by. By the end of the date we were walking together, very close together to help keep warm. We walked through a park and I stared into her eyes. Then, went for the kiss.

Magic.

 

Time Away from Each Other

I was only in Ukraine for 10 days, so we were only able to meet 3 times. She wouldn’t do anything sexual, but it matched the sweet, innocent nature of this girl, so it didn’t bother me much. It was difficult to say goodbye, but I already had my tickets. It was time to go to Latin America.

I was gone for about four months. I was in partying and traveling with friends in Dominican Republic and Colombia while she was in Ukraine working with little autistic children. We would message almost every day and she would tell me about her day at work and how cute the kids were. I could expect pictures of her playing with little autistic children about once a week.

 

The Return to Urkaine

Four months later I returned to that city in Ukraine, mostly because of her. This girl seemed to be everything I said I wanted in a serious girlfriend. She was very attractive, caring, honest (after experiencing and writing my book The Key Logger, I got very good at seeing how honest girls are) and… she was the sweetest girl in the world.

She was there waiting for me when I arrived. She had set everything up for finding an apartment and she was with me every minute to make sure everything went well.

I ended up with an awesome apartment with a near perfect location for a great price. All thanks to her helping me. Everything seemed to be going well, except that I felt something inside of me… boredom.

I ignored this feeling because I knew that it came from spending the last few months sleeping with a new girl every day or two and being with THC, doing a lot of partying. I also knew this girl was special and that I couldn’t just throw it all away.

Weeks went by and Easter arrived. She surprised me with Ukrainian Easter cakes and I explained to her the American tradition of hiding chocolate eggs around the house for kids to find. That night I walked her to the metro and when I returned to my apartment I saw a message from her.

“I hid 3 chocolate eggs somewhere in your room. Good luck finding them).”

Sweetest… girl… ever…

 

What I had been ignoring comes to the surface

I was with this sweet, attractive girl, but I still craved the excitement and adventure I felt in Colombia. Sexually, seducing a new, attractive 18 year old every few days is pretty much impossible to beat. One day, she did something to make me angry (not a big deal) and I ignored her for the next week.

When I met with her a week later, I saw it in her eyes… everything had changed. I tried a bit to fix things, but with this overly trusting girl, breaking this trust destroyed everything. It was over and the sweetest girl in the world was no longer mine.

 

What is going on in my head?

To this day I look back and I wonder why I threw away everything I had with this near perfect girl. Is my lifestyle too addicting to let go of? Did I push her away because I knew we could end up in a serious relationship? Or maybe I didn’t think I deserved her?

One thing was clear, how I felt towards her changed after my trip to Latin America. I had tried to fix it, but I couldn’t.

When you date as many women as I do, every once in a while you meet one who is really special. The last girl like her I had met was THE Polish girl about two years earlier. Meeting these special girls is the great part of my lifestyle, but the bad part could be that it is so addicting that even when I meet these amazing girls I can’t give up the lifestyle.

I don’t know the answer and my future plans still involve a lot of travel, sex and adventure (quick trips to the Baltics then Middle East and Asia). My dad was only able to settle down when he got older and his hormones and looks started going down. I can only hope that when that happens, I will be dating one of these really special girls. And now I know I’ll always wonder what would have ended up happening with the sweetest girl in the world.

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  • Cecil J

    How old was your Dad when he did settle down?

    With travel to and from, personal shopping, partying, and living in all these different places what would you say your average total monthly expenses are?

    • He was mid 30’s but where he grew up most people settled down in teens and early 20’s “mormon country”

      i honestly have no idea because different countries are way more expensive than others. and thrn it depends on how often im traveling. rightt now, not traveling in ukraine im spending less than 1000$ a month.

    • Constipated Canuck

      You in Kiev?

    • no. further east

    • Constipated Canuck

      I was just in Dnipropetrovsk with a bud. Fun city.

    • later i want to check out a new city. i was thinking dnipr but now im thinking a smaller city.

    • Cecil J

      They call Nikolaev the city of brides. Some good looking girls with online dating profiles there.

    • hmm i’ll look into it. thx

  • Very interesting.
    It’s the same players dilemma I talk about in one of my posts. http://joshbar.net/2016/01/25/395/

    Recently ROK had an article on the player lifestyle. http://www.returnofkings.com/88765/can-the-player-lifestyle-damage-your-ability-to-have-long-term-relationships

    For me. It’s about balance and being honest about my nature. After a while I get bored. I can’t deny that I also want to participate in travel, sex and adventure. Then I think to myself “How long am I going to be doing this?”.
    “What if I would have wifed up so and so, she was such a great girl! Ehh, I wouldn’t be were I am now had I done that”

    I love to be free. If “love” happens it happens, it will not be something that will be forced. Until then I’m gonna keep banging.

    I try to leave in good terms with the girls I meet. So if I ever decide to come back, We can pick up where we left off.

    • yeah i understand. but i am still the type of guy who eventually wants a strong family. so its hard for me to decide what i should make a priority at this point in my life.

      and yeah i try to do that as well. its really rare that one of my relationships ends badly

      im actually chatting with the girl from this story right now.

    • Batou Kovacs

      20nation, if you are a good negotiator you can keep them on/off rotation for years. I’ve had a dozen ladies return after years of silence hitting me up. They get tired and bored of whoever and remember how awesome you are.

      Never get angry keep it fun and light, always have the attitude. Check out the book: Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It, by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz.

      It will change your life. Cheers.

    • interesting. i agree wih the always keep it fun statement. ill check it out

  • splooge

    each year that goes by, itll be harder and harder as the world keeps westernizing, and girls when jaded or time takes away her fertility that sweetness will get bitter.
    Tie her down man, dont waste it, good girls are very hard to find.
    you already got notches that makes Genghis Khan green with envy.

    take the time to get to know her like every year hit up the ukraine or something.
    But I think you are feeling the “burnout’. Roosh mentioned this when you hit the triple digits.

    • I do feel a bit of the burnout. but its not for new girls as much as hige numbers if notches like i used to go for. i still enjoy seducing new interesting girls. i’m still in contact with THE polish girl. She still wants to get back together, but honestly i’m just not ready to settle down yet. but i know one day i will be.

    • splooge

      dont wait too long man, I dont mean that you dont want to be too old chasing juniors around but her clock is ticking. Gotta have them before 30

    • hmmm. this could be wise advice

    • Batou Kovacs

      Ummmm Genghis Khan and his generals would get the pick of women every time the Mongol horde captured a city. From the finest ladies those civilizations had to offer. He had over 500 children. I don’t think anyone in our century has ever pulled those numbers. Maybe switch to, “make Bill Clinton green with envy.”

    • Fidel castro apparently slept with around 35,000 women.

  • jazz

    Seems like a keeper. But the reason she broke up wirh you seems not logic: because you ignord her for a week? I think youre not telling the whole story. Was it because you “cheated’ on her?

    • there is more to the story, but its not anything big like that. just little things.

  • BaroiKalimotxo

    “Meeting these special girls is the great part of my lifestyle, but the bad part could be that it is so addicting that even when I meet these amazing girls I can’t give up the lifestyle.”

    I feel you on every word, being a notch collector in Eastern Europe for the past 7 years, I settle down with the sweetest Latina, (she’s light skinned and the pampering behaviour from our grandmothers), she lets me run my castle as I wish best, cooks for me, respects my space and yet I’m messing with her trust and being a douche at times, mostly because I miss the adventure and excitement (even if I don’t bed the slut in the end -chase better than the catch). Deep inside you know you’re screwing it big and you’ll regret it on your deathbed. But what can you do? The devil on your shoulder never ceases to mess with your hormones.

    • i know exactly what you’re doing. its what i did with the polish girl. the excitement is addicting

    • Batou Kovacs

      Gents, it is ok to have the first wife and the concubines. Just saying. I was with my girl over 20 years, at some point it is more about pair bonding and less about sex. The whole time I usually had a side girl just for the adventure and sex of fooling around. It never made me love my girl any less. The opposite actually, it reminded me of how sweet and amazing she was. And after the first 5 years of NRE sex, it takes the pressure off her if she just wants to cuddle.

    • yeah its nice but not all girls will accept that. You get all your bases covered. the highest value guys usually go this road

    • leo635463jsads

      Have you ever met a girl that loved you and at the same time allowed you to sleep with others without having bad feelings?

      I met 1 girl like this in my entire life and I’m almost sure it’s because we don’t live in the same city and this is a window of opportunity behavior that eventually will expire when another man steps into her life.

  • BaroiKalimotxo

    “Meeting these special girls is the great part of my lifestyle, but the bad part could be that it is so addicting that even when I meet these amazing girls I can’t give up the lifestyle.”

    I feel you on every word, being a notch collector in Eastern Europe for the past 7 years, I settle down with the sweetest Latina, (she’s light skinned and the pampering behaviour from our grandmothers), she lets me run my castle as I wish best, cooks for me, respects my space and yet I’m messing with her trust and being a douche at times, mostly because I miss the adventure and excitement (even if I don’t bed the slut in the end -chase better than the catch). Deep inside you know you’re screwing it big and you’ll regret it on your deathbed. But what can you do? The devil on your shoulder never ceases to mess with your hormones.

  • REP PR

    Dude, what country or region would youyou say have the best wifey material? Hot, high sex drive, freak in bed, submissive, non clingy, loyal and loves to please and pamper?

    • that girl you are describing is a gem anywhere in the world. not easy to find, but im actually planning to make a map on girlfriend/marriage material girls.

    • REP PR

      Although I’m not settling down any time soon, I might at some point. So, I’m looking forward to that girlfriend /wifey material.

    • im in the exact same boat

  • ale

    Should write an article on gaming in Ukraine versus the US.

    • hmmm that’s an interesting idea since they are almost polar opposites. I’ll write it down 😉

  • Cecil J

    20 I remember when Roosh released his book before the latest one he had a list of 78 cities he had traveled too with a general comments that sounded something like this:
    Córdoba, Argentina-
    A city full of beautiful college girls that has decent night life, is very walkable, and is cheap to live in (i.e. $1100/month cost of living). I often wonder why I left. Perfect for game if you speek Spanish and can tolerate the hystericas of Argentinian girls. It’s best to integrate into a social circle if possible to get better quality girls. Overall Reccomendation-Very Strong.

    Copenhagen, Denmark-
    A city full of obnoxious carousel riding feminists who dress like they are members of a 1960s commune and ride bicycles everywhere. Weak beta liberal yes man game is the only thing that works here if you’re into wasting your time and money to bang obnoxious 4s and 5s with attitude. Very expensive to live in@$4500/month. Overall Reccomendation-Very Poor (all heterosexual redpill men should avoid this EU version of DC and Toronto if possible).

    It would be cool to see your lifetime travel log of all the citites and your views on game strategy, the atmosphere, girls looks, cost of living quantified (i.e. $1500/month), and overall opinion of the places. Fast and succinct summaries like that are the best IMO.

    • Actually THC and I are actually discussing doing something like this. Legit and structured travel datasheets. We might put them out to the public or in the members area (which will be done soon.

  • Cindy J

    Wow this was really… good. It had me wondering though. If you had another chance to remake your decision, would you have decided NOT to game around to bang girls to avoid the “addiction” you were referring to & eventually settle with your ideal girl? 🙂