One Secret You Should Keep From Women
Women have been masters of manipulation from the beginning of time, it’s not by choice, but because they have never been able to use physical force. By revealing one thing to women, you give them power over you. By telling them this, you kill the mystery you have and you kill the challenge you as a man pose to them. What is this one bit of information that is so important to hide? Simple… It’s what you want.
What do I mean
The one secret you should keep from women is what you desire most, what you feel you need or simply what you want. What you want is some of the most important information you have, it’s not something you should give up easily.
Now, in this situation I’m using this as it pertains to gaming women. You should never let a girl know what exactly you want nor how much you want it.
If you want to sleep with the girl, don’t make it obvious. If you want a relationship with a girl, don’t make it obvious. This information is precious and woman can use it to make your life very difficult or to simply disqualify you as a possible lover. In this sense, game is almost like chess.
What women can do with “your wants”
I started thinking about this as I was writing my book about online dating. I was adding a part about how important it is to know what type of girl it is because that will usually determine what she wants. Then, you can hint at those things that she wants and get the girl. One of the most important things in elite online game, is finding what she wants. Then I thought “Wait, who are the masters of this?
Women. They are masters of manipulation and here are some of the things they can do with typical information from you while dating.
You give the impression you are most interested in sex
If she’s not most interested in sex, you’ve just made it harder for you to score. Maybe she will keep making you wait because she wants you to score or maybe she will write you off all together.
If she, like you, is most interested in sex, now that she knows that it’s what you want, she can use this to get you to jump through hoops for you. A lot of shit tests are born because men make it obvious how badly they want sex. The woman then sees an opportunity for free meals, you doing whatever she wants, all the while she is dangling it in front of your face.
You give the impression you are most interested in a relationship
If that’s what she was looking for, she will be happy about this hint, but she will also see that she can draw out a long courtship phase. She can get you to take her all over and she knows that you will probably do whatever it takes so that she will be your “girlfriend.”
If it’s not what she’s looking for, or at least so soon, you have just painted yourself as desperate (think Ted from How I met your mother), and you have still given her power to get you to do many things for her.
You give the impression you aren’t interested in her
This will obviously make her insecure and it will effectively take away all of her power to manipulate you. If she was interested in you, she will be bummed and may become offended. “Why doesn’t he like me? I don’t need this guy.”
If she wasn’t interested in you, you will make her think the same thing, but you can hurt her pride as well.
The Mixed Message
You give the impression you aren’t interested, you are interested in sex and that you are interested in a relationship, randomly throughout the interaction
This is what you should be going for. You are physically escalating, so she subconsciously thinks you are into her. But you are teasing her and you are completely aloof so maybe you don’t like her. You mentioned that you miss going to movies with your ex-girlfriend, but then you do something to show that you are willing to walk away from her if she isn’t acting right. She has no idea what you want from her.
If you put a girl in this position, she will go with you back to your place, because she really isn’t sure what it is you want. She’s still trying to figure that out, and mystery brings out a strong curiosity in all human beings. She may not try to hold out on sex, because the logic from making a guy wait for sex is: “Well it’s clear he really wants me, so he will wait for sex.” But if it’s not clear that you are into her, that strategy won’t be much of a strategy on her part.
How I use this
The one secret you should keep from women is your wants; I keep this in mind when I go on dates with girls. On those dates, I will very rarely kiss a girl before she is back at my place. I will physically escalate, but I will not kiss her. Why? Because a kiss is letting her what you want. From the kiss, she knows you want sex, a relationship or both. That is more information than I want her to know at this point. So, I will wait until I get her to my room before going for the kiss. That reduces the chances that she will not agree to go back with me.
Then, to get her back, when we are close to a grocery store, I might say something like “I should get some things so I can eat tonight. It’s ok?” You aren’t being a dick about it, but subconsciously she will get the message that the date isn’t going perfect and you want to shop. You have been being sexual and escalating, so these things will send a very mixed message. She will think you like her, but all that she knows is that you aren’t falling all over her like the majority of men do. Now she must win you over.
I’m not saying that kissing a girl quickly is always bad, for example, I don’t think it’s a bad idea to kiss a girl quickly. Why? Because it’s a really good way to screen if girls are DTF.
I will also send all sorts of signals about whether or not I like her or what I am interested in. I am a puzzle that she must figure out. She can’t have power over me, if she doesn’t know what I want.
Other game advice works because of this principle
Another part of not revealing what you want, is not revealing how much you want something. This is why you are not supposed to say “I need” you should use “I want” instead.
You should be willing to walk away when a girl misbehaves. She is misbehaving, in part, because she wants to find out how much you like her and how she can use it. When you reply by smiling and saying “Ok.” Then walking away, you will confuse her as to what you wanted. You were talking to her, so something about her must have interested you… or maybe you just wanted to talk because you were bored. She now knows you don’t like her enough so she can manipulate you and it will make her want you more. This, and she will continue wanting you more and more because she has no idea what you do want.
When you are aloof, you are basically showing that you don’t need anything that she is offering. You aren’t enamored with what she is saying, you aren’t telling complex jokes trying to impress her; you are still hiding whether or not you are interested in her.
Not revealing what you want makes you more desirable
The simple fact that you don’t reveal to her what exactly you want from her by itself actually makes you more attractive. If she doesn’t clearly know what you want, then you are obviously in control of the frame. You are not putting her on a pedestal or suggesting that she is out of your league. As she picks up on this it will make you more attractive in her eyes. You are the puzzle she can’t pause and she will want to continue trying to solve you.
Girls DON’T want men that they can manipulate. The more you do to make it harder for her to manipulate you, the happier she will be with you. It’s sad, but true.
Why you shouldn’t say “I love you” first
Saying “I love you” reveals what you want. Saying it first, tells her that you want it more than her. That will put you in the chasing position and most women will use this to get the upper hand in a relationship. If she tells you she loves you first, then you know what she wants. You now know what she wants and how much she wants it.
How women use “what you want” in relationships
Serious relationships with girls reveal the worst of women using what you want to get what they want. You want to see your kids? Well you better do what I say. You want sex tonight? Well you better clean the kitchen. You want me to keep cooking and cleaning? You better let me spend all your money. Once a girl finds out what a guy wants most from a girl, she will usually use it to get what she wants.
The One Secret You Should Keep From Women
Contrary to what most people believe, the person who is most willing to walk away, has the most power in a relationship. By being willing to walk away you are showing her that she doesn’t understand or have what you want. The messages that you were sending that made her believe you wanted her, are even more confusing now.
There are always exceptions, but overall this is a good rule to have. It’s the right way to think about it and doing this will allow you to hook up with a higher variety of different types of girls. You won’t only have to choose from the small percentage of girls that are most interested in sex. This is why what you want is the one secret you should keep from women.