Life Advice for Young Men and Women

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Life advice for younger men and women

Life Advice for Young Men and Women

 

If I may I would like to offer some life advice for young men and women;

 

Men – Whatever you do, do not get married. Do not even consider it. It is a terrible business decision and you will always regret it but by the time you do, you will be institutionalized to the point where you cannot function outside of the structure of having your wife tell you what to do and what to think and when to take a piss.

Then, because you are such a pushover and not man enough to do what you think is best, or because you are constantly saying wimpy things like “whatever you want honey” to avoid confrontation, she will be turned off (not knowing exactly why) and will start looking around her and mistaking the passing sexual attention of some nearby single “bad boy” and think it’s long term dating interest.  She will start thinking she is wasting her prime years with you. The loyal schlub that pays all her bills. She will start consulting her friends (who are probably already divorced and miserable) and they will seek to validate their own stupid decisions by telling her “you deserve to be happy” (when really they want her to be miserable, let’s face it, women hate each other). Then one day just before she hits the wall (because you were too dumb to marry a girl 10 years younger than you) she’s going to screw around with some guy and say “it just happened” (even though it never just happens) or she’s going to flat out leave you. Then you get divorce raped, then you are back out in the wild with your game skills so atrophied you don’t even know how to talk to a girl. You will spend years in misery recovering from this.

The only way to avoid this kind of shitty outcome with your wife is to be a man that makes HIS mission,( not his wife) his priority.  She will respect you then, and while she will constantly try and test your resolve with dramatic meltdowns and childish fits, every time you don’t give in, she will love you more (as opposed to her losing respect for you and loving you less)

Women want to align themselves with a stronger masculine presence, it makes them feel feminine, special, and safe.

They want a man with unshakable confidence, who believes in himself and who knows how to take charge of a situation.

The only way to become this kind of man is by living a full life, filled with adversity, defeat (and victory), setbacks overcome, and the type of life experience that evokes personal growth.

You simply cannot achieve this by the time you are 25.  It just won’t happen, and marrying early will surely put a halt on completing yourself as a man.

Take your single bachelorhood, and travel as much as you can. See the world around you.  Meet beautiful women from all walks of life.

Be honest with yourself about what you want out of life, do not bend to societies expectations of you.  Society does not care about the individual, only you will ultimately be on your side.

Stay fit, healthy and strong. Keep learning, study a second language, write about your life, study a martial art of some kind, learn to grill out like a champion (get a “kiss the cook” apron, trust me) and be like the shark that has to swim or die, only do it with self improvement.

Do not become a fat bastard that puts Doritos on his sandwich.

Be better than that.

 

Memorize this poem:

If—

 by Rudyard Kipling

(‘Brother Square-Toes’—Rewards and Fairies)

If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Men – if you are one of these wimps that has to have someone because you are needy and lonely (it’s going to fail because you are needy and lonely), or perhaps you have seen the world, completed yourself as a man, and are ready for a family, marry a younger girl.

Women don’t age well, and keeping attraction is vitally important. If she is your age and you are both in your 30s, she is going to look 40 while you still look good.

DON’T get married in the US, and preferably not to an American girl. Their manners are atrocious, they are narcissists addicted to getting “likes” on Facebook in order to give them a sense of self worth.

Now for the women…

Women – Learn to get your sense of self worth by accomplishing things of merit and do not be like these women.

Girls like to feel feminine and special, but because most are spoiled brats (who don’t even realize they had things handed to them their whole lives), they take the easy way out and throw on a slutty dress to get the quick fix of validation and post a “sexy” photo in order to get male attention.

It’s something I pity women for because it becomes a horrible cycle of need, where you only feel good when someone is giving you attention. It causes you to spend more time in front of the mirror instead of spending that time doing something noble, and of good character.

It ruins you, because you are addicted to a fleeting short term fix of cheap self worth, of which there will never be enough. 

Women who sleep around don’t realize it, but they are screwing up their ability to be emotionally loyal.  They become addicted to the high of a new relationship, the chemicals and hormones that are released when they are intimate with a man (even with a one night stand), and so they are forever chasing that high as well, often confusing it with “being in love”.  The trouble of course happening when a relationship takes its natural course and that “newness” being over, they think they are no longer in love, and seek out another man.  The emotional and psychological costs of living this type of lifestyle is just not worth it. 

Do not fall into the trap of trying to “enjoy your younger years” by dating around (also known as being a slut) just so you can later on decide when you are approaching 30 that you’re ready to settle down.

While I advise men, especially in the US, to stay single I’m advising you to lock down a good man as soon as possible.

Men need to be tempered like steel through all the trials I described above.

Women need to be sculpted and molded like a piece of art, and that can be done when they marry early to a man of substance who becomes a mentor of sorts.

Women need to be lead the same as when they do a ballroom dance.

Men of substance and means don’t want a 30 year old girl who’s about to hit the wall. The type of men you want value youthfulness and attractiveness and more than anything, they value a girl they can trust.

A girl that has spent most of her adult life partying and texting 15 different guys at once riding the cock carousel is not a girl that will ever be trustworthy. She is ruined, damaged goods, and not worth the trouble or risk.

She has lived a life of deceit and manipulation, and no amount of wanting to change will turn her into a suitable lifelong companion.  She simply cannot recover from that kind of social conditioning.

I know what you’re thinking, it’s “I don’t need a man to be happy! I have my career! I have my looks! I have my friends!”

Ladies, I’m here to tell you, you have been fed a feminist lie.

Just as men feel masculine when they fix things around the house for their wife or protect her from spiders, women feel feminine (and special) when they take care of their man and their family.

The feminist lie that the only difference between men and women is their “parts” is an intellectual, bullshit, myth and if you don’t shape up soon, you will later find out the hard way.

Men and women are very different, and feminism is causing our poor women to create a disconnect between their feminine nature, and how they live their lives by being more masculine. They are taught to view all men as “potential rapists” instead of their protectors as they historically were (and still are). The result is a horrible one, as they go from failed relationship to failed relationship (driving good men away with crazy demands and a sense of entitlement), with the caliber of man declining each time as they get older and more worn down until their cat is their only companion.

Look at any older feminist and despite what she claims, she is a sad and lonely spinster, bitter at the world and unable to let go of the dogma she’s bought into because she has self identified with it so much, to reject it now would destroy her sense of self.

Men of stature DO NOT CARE if you have a college degree, those things are a dime a dozen, they want a woman that has her shit together.

Don’t think because you have a degree that means you are special. EVERY girl has some bullshit degree (probably in HR or women’s studies) and men of stature DO NOT CARE about that.

A needy, high maintenance, whiny, girl who is hot, has about 72 hours until her attractiveness wears off. Don’t be some vapid and vacuous party girl that’s good for one thing.

Learn to make decisions about what to do, and what you think about something on your own and without consulting your friends.  Nothing is more unattractive than having to deal with a woman that is the type of person that follows the advice of the last person they spoke to.

Become a feminine, trustworthy, SOLID, and well balanced human being.

And if you really want to stand out, learn to cook well.  Most women actually gain a lot of satisfaction from cooking the interest of their affection a nice meal.

Oh and for God’s sake, stay in shape and stay out of the tanning bed.

Don’t try and pretend to be this type of girl, BE this type of girl.

Find a man that is worthy of that type of woman and become devoted to him.

Women, look for a man that is willing to tell you “no”. Look for a man that will make decisions and not say “Whatever you want”. Look for a man that is driven towards his own mission.  Look for a man that tells you that you’re cute when you get angry.  Look for a man that other men want to be.  This is the type of man you will stay attracted to, and this is the type of man that will value a girl that makes a trustworthy companion.

Lock this man down, because this man is going to have his pick of women and if he is wise, he will choose the one that’s described above when he is ready for a family.

 

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Fisto

I’m Fisto, I like to think of myself as a modern day adventurer. I have a roving foot, a desire to write, and a bit of a drinking problem, so having a blog seemed like a natural progression. Cheers.

  • LeBeau

    Great post, I actually carried that poem folded in my wallet for much of my younger years. You guys keep putting out quality content, I see this blog going far.

    • Fisto

      Thanks for supporting us LeBeau. It means a lot.

  • Omega Man

    Excellent advice.

    The only thing I would add is that marriage to the right woman completes a man and gives him a purpose in life. Having said that the husband must be the man in the marriage. While feminists universally condemn the submission of a wife to her husband, the wise husband also knows that he is nothing without his wife.

    Unfortunately in this overly feminized age, many men have forgotten how to be a man and women have forgotten how to be feminine and so finding the right woman is becoming increasingly difficult if not impossible.

    • Fisto

      Yes, I agree with you. To go back to the dancing analogy, while the man is leading the woman is supporting.

  • hoodlum81

    Awesome post guys. I’ve watched this blog develop into one of the best in the manosphere over the last year. Solid advice, no drama, no bitterness, just positive, actionable advice.

    Keep it up. (YouSoWould)

    • Fisto

      Very glad you liked it. We are just getting started still.

    • Agreed!

      Great post, Fisto.

  • Marshallaw

    Love Kipling….” Man who would be King”, the book, movie quite good too, Connery and Caine? What’s not to like. Must read more of him. A true man of the world. I’ll be keeping this link for reference in future! Outstanding, my compliments.

    • Fisto

      I will definitely be reading Man Who Would Be King. “If” is a poem I will go back and reread from time to time when I need a kick in the ass. Line for line you can philosophize on. Very glad to hear you liked this post.

  • Joe

    On this post-
    Fisto man you can get down when you want to write- very deep and practical advice. You gotta make an e-book man-I think frame control and good ways to get a girl to come to your place and use logistics tactics to take her upstairs w/o even going out are top level game moves. A future blog on how to get insta bangs from your hotel lobby would rock man.

    Question-
    What’s your belief on the omega makes over 30???

    Are they a lost cause or can they change by learning game, getting in shape, finding a $ hustle, etc.

    On Anglosphere anti male culture-
    My 2 cents is you will see a lot more betas and omegas in the coming years especially in the USA because schools, culture society, corporate culture, etc. all preach that pinko trash that men are bad, rapists, mean oppressors, etc. which is all anti human lies. Men are the builders and protectors if civilization and I’m glad to be a man.

    On the blog and travel-
    You’re one of my favorite bloggers (I also follow Roosh V,Mark Zolo, Danger and play, Christian McQueen, Ross Jeffries-his patterns work the best on smart good girls IMO, and Steve Jabba). I can’t wait to see a veteran of game like you give us field data in Easten Europe- I know it will be exciting. I’ve been waiting for a deal to close so I can get some stacks of C notes and do a game mission. From my recon online with Facebook- I see Bucharest, Helsinki, Tallin, Riga, Poznan, Krakow, Zagreb, Kiev, Odessa, Nikolaev, Buharest, and all of Bulgaria as good locations.

    • Fisto

      Joe – Thanks for saying all that. I’m working on a few things at once now so it’s taking awhile but I’ll have a few ebooks finished here in the not too distant future.

      I’d like to believe any man can change at any age, but experience tells me that people are pretty much who they are going to be by 30.

      You are absolutely correct in your predictions. There will either be a huge resurgence with men like you and I or there will be an anticlimactic puff of air as this country breaths it’s last breath.

      Personally, part of the reason I travel is to recon all the these places until I find where I’d like to settle. Right now my plan is to spend 6 months at a time in different regions of the world and then move to the next.

    • Malcom X>Feminism

      WHat kind of bankroll does a player need to game and live in most of these spots/year? Will 35k USD do it? Thanks Player

    • Fisto

      Malcom – You will be living very well on 35k USD in most of these places. Especially if you plan to stay for an extended period and can get an apartment for a few months. Hotels can cut down on your daily budget quite a bit. Rent goes down drastically around the 3-6 month range.

  • 20Nation

    Great post Fisto. I had never read that poem… it’s legit

  • bacon

    Fisto solid advice! I am enjoying this blog all of you guys have really pulled it together in the last few months on here with the quality content and writing. Keep it up!

    I would add before any man considers getting engaged he should make a trip to SEA either Thailand or the Philippines just so he understands what he is giving up by getting married.

    • Fisto

      I agree with you 100%. Go experience a high volume of women before getting married.

    • GetItGoing

      Solid advice.

      Kind of like drinking Kool-Aid all your life and never having a Hawaiin Punch. You never know what you’re missing, could be the greatest thing to happen. Either way, you can at least go out knowing you found out.

  • Acehole

    Great advice. Too bad nobody is reading this. I don’t mean that as a dig. People, particularly women, hate the truth in all forms. They don’t want to hear stuff like this. They would rather read a Cosmo article that claims you can drive a man wild sexually by gently touching his elbow.

    • Fisto

      Maybe so…

    • Fisto

      349 views as of right now. Maybe people will “like” it haha

    • Tony

      Hey Fisto..

      I’ve posted a question on your PH article (http://swooptheworld.com/how-to-bang-3-women-a-day-in-the-philippines/)

      When you have a second please could you answer?

      Thanks,

      Tony

    • GetItGoing

      An article of substance isn’t appealing to many, as it requires an interest in gaining wisdom, pursuing self-improvement, and making sacrifices: a.k.a, making an effort.

      But I eat up things like this. Love it!

  • PBK

    Solid article, Fisto. One of your best. You’ve never considered writing an e-book, by the way?

    I always enjoy reading STW’s travel material, but you should definitely throw in more stuff like this as well. General self improvement.

    Keep it up.

    • Fisto

      PBK, thanks for saying so. I’ll be coming out with a couple ebooks soon.

  • Malcom X>Feminism

    Brother Fisto,
    Here and on the RVF never heard it discussed-

    As far as nightlife, beaches, outdoor activity, vibe of the people, the whole deal overall-
    Which region is more of a fun time-SE Asia or Latin America?

    • Fisto

      I’m a fan of SEA. I’ll be headed back soon.

    • That’s very interesting to hear. I always assumed I’d like Latin America more but when I hear things like this I wonder.

    • Fisto

      Well I only got through the first half of Central America so I can’t say for sure but that’s my initial feeling.

  • splooge

    u should post this on rok to get it more exposure

    • Fisto

      I’ll send it to Roosh

  • george

    woooow

  • StevieV

    Just for fun I had to say

    Ok – I figure I need to send a response to this as it is
    soooo controversial. I originally posted this blog as a friend of mine wrote
    it. I believe him to be a good writer and wanted him to have some publicity. I
    don’t share all the views he spouts off on in the article. I am not even sure
    how much of it he personally believes in his spoutage but I figured I should
    send it out into the universe and see what people think. There are a bunch of TRUTHS inside his argument however there are a ton of suppositions as well.

    First off don’t get married because you think you are supposed to get married. Don’t do it because your friends have all gotten married and you think you should. Read further and see what marriage is all about then decide.

    Marriage is more of a business decision than people believe
    but that is only one piece of the pie. To me, marriage is a partnership,
    a business partnership, a physical partnership, a blending of two into an
    immediately larger family (sometimes you even take on extra kids). It is usually done out of love and for creating a family, growing a family, having a life partner. I have seen the men who never get married or are divorced late into their 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. They don’t have anyone to help them out, no one to with they can participate in life. They are alone and whether or not they admit it they are scared. Who will they call if they fall down? Will anyone visit them in the hospital? I personally fear being old and alone. So you might
    say this response is fear based.

    Choose someone with similar beliefs. If you believe in… well let’s say… social equality, and your mate does not and you say ” but we LOVE each other “…well sooner or later this type of fundamental belief begins to root and starts to break at the foundation of your LOVE. Trust me LOVE does not cure all. I have loved in the past and that love was different than the love I have now. My love now grows. It is deeper, it is sweeter and it is very, very stable. My wife and I have common goals, we discuss finances, we choose to support one another. We sacrifice for one another. One question a person should ask themself before getting married is “am I willing to be part of a TEAM and sacrifice my individual goals for the long term benefit of my Marriage?” The WE not the ME. Her goals and your goals should coincide.

    DO NOT GET MARRIED FOR LOVE. If you want to get married because you are solely “in love” you need to check yourself. You need to think about marriage and what marriage means. Marriage is without a doubt a business partnership coupled with a ton of pros and cons. Talk to your partner about roles (gender roles) and what you believe – be honest about how you approach life – if you are not honest the relationship won’t last, or it will and both of you will be living a lie and be miserable. If you believe that men should rule the house and you have a wife who makes more money than you well guess what you will probably be in for a surprise.

    Relationships in general are a give and take. The idea for a healthy relationship is that you WANT to give; you want to make that person happy. You want to, as my wedding vows stated, “grow old and wrinkly with” your mate. Understand that your spouse will someday not be the person you want to have sex with you will not find her attractive physically. She will be old and wrinkly and you will be old and wrinkly. You will probably need Viagra.

    You need to talk about more than “I love you”. Let’s say you want to have a baby and your wife does too. Do you have the same inclinations toward rearing? Do you believe in physical punishment? Does your wife? What about finances – if you live alone you answer to no one. You can buy what you want when you want whenever you want with no fear of hurting another individual. You can “fly by the seat of your pants”. If you are in a partnership are you striving to achieve the best common goal financially? Is financial stability/freedom a core goal for the marriage. People fail to talk about these issues prior to marriage. If you are so blinded by “LOVE”, I call this passion, then you will be marrying for the wrong reasons. A person should “know thyself” before marriage, they should know what marriage is, they should make damn sure that their end goals are the same as their potential spouse’s goals.

    There is a lot of supposition in this subjective spouting by Fisto. I am a man whom is married to the woman I love. I love her based on her strengths (literally and figuratively). Her weaknesses are not why I love her but they come with the territory. Will she look like she is 25 when she is 52? No of course not. You can’t marry for the purely physical, a boy marries a woman because of what she looks like. He doesn’t have forethought. The boy wants all his toys, he doesn’t want to participate in maintaining the toys he just wants the toy when he wants it. Fisto
    has it right when he say’s “You simply cannot achieve this by the time you are 25. It just won’t happen, and marrying early will surely put a halt on completing yourself as a man. Take your single bachelorhood, and travel as much as you can. See the world around you. Meet beautiful women from all walks of life”

    Become a man and not a boy who thinks he is a man. Understand that the more
    you know about yourself the better off you are. At the same time if you keep
    waiting for “the perfect woman” be careful, even Halle Berry got cheated on.
    This means men will always find some greener pastures that they want to taste.
    The idea is coming to understand that flesh is flesh and if you derive pleasure
    from conquering multiple women into your 40’s or even 50’s then you have found what works for you, but understand you will probably be lonely toward the end of your life (unless you are very rich). Own what you create in life. Maybe in
    your 30’s you will find enough out about yourself to know if you truly want to
    have a marriage vs serial monogamy vs just plain being a man whore (all are ok
    if it is what you truly want).

    You will also find that there are women out there who think they will change
    you. They will find you like a fly finds shit. They will make your life miserable because you will ultimately have to be brutally honest with them. You will have to tell this pest of a woman “yes, when I said I never wanted to get married I meant you too!” “When I said I don’t want a relationship I meant you”.
    Trust me when I tell you that they believe themselves to be different. I have spoken to many a young woman who thinks she can change a man.

    This brings us to the women. YOU CAN’T CHANGE A MAN. He needs to want to change for himself. If he does it for you he will ultimately just be resentful
    of you. For GOD’s sake please stop pressuring the guy, if he hasn’t proposed in
    your time frame maybe you picked the wrong guy. Women please remember what marriage is too (see above if you have already forgot). Explore your sexuality, be a whore if you want, sleep around, be safe and use protection. When you meet the man of your dreams LIE TO HIM. Tell him you have slept with only 3-5 guys if you are in your 20’s, 5-10 in your 30’s, 15 or so in your 40’s we would like to believe you like sex but we also want to be special. Also keep in mind what Fisto said about women “screwing up their ability to be emotionally loyal. They become addicted to the high of a new relationship, the chemicals and hormones that are released when they are intimate with a man (even with a one night stand), and so they are forever chasing that high as well, often confusing it with “being in love”.” (I love that part – so true and scientifically based).

    It’s ok to be a woman. Women are beautiful, women can be strong, it’s ok to
    want to be wanted and it’s ok to want to need a man. The reason men and women work well together is based in their gender roles. I fix the crap around my home because I am better at it than my wife, my wife rears our child because
    she is WAY better at it than me. It doesn’t mean she can’t help me and I can’t
    help her but we work together toward a common goal. Our society has been working so hard toward equality that we are forgetting that it is ok to be a man and ok to be a woman.

    And Fisto is right when he speaks to men wanting an attractive woman. I try
    to explain this to women all the time but they fail to see my reasoning. They
    get mad that a man wants a 19 year old smoking hot girlfriend but at the same
    time they want security the likes of Fort Knox. I will often ask the girl who doesn’t understand this (she invariably has a college degree) “would you date a guy who make 8$ per hour and is he is OK with that?”

    “No” she will state. I will try to explain that to her security is sexy, to a man a lithe body is sexy. Most women will dump the guy who quits his great paying job to become a lazy bum right? A guy who wants to sit on the couch all day and play video games and do nothing is what I equate to the woman whom, once she lands her man, gains 30 pounds.

    A man should understand that his wife/partner will age and will eventually
    become unattractive but a woman should try to participate in a healthy sexual
    atmosphere. She should at least try to stay in shape. This goes for both men
    and women of course. We all want to be attractive; we all want to be attracted
    to our mates. Fisto makes some good arguments about why a man should get out and see the world and not marry young. He makes good arguments about women “A needy, high maintenance, whiny, girl who is hot, has about 72 hours until her attractiveness wears off.”

    Take all of this with a grain of salt folks – If you felt like Fisto was
    talking bad about you in this blog then maybe he hit a little too close to
    home.

  • Party More

    This post asserts the male dignity our Western culture has tried to undermine.

    Guys, whats the best travel strategy for game novices?

    1)Recon a few cities in a region for short intervals (3 days/town-hit up 7 or 8 towns that way)
    or
    2)Stay planted in a town for a month solid

    • Fisto

      I prefer to stay in an area and get imbedded. It’s tough to really get a feel for the city when you’re only around a couple days.

      A month will make you a bit lazy and you won’t have a sense of urgency to explore though. I think a couple weeks might be your best move before checking out another place.

  • micoq_szoar

    Excellent advice. I’m 45 now and wish I’d known this in my 30s. Keep up the great work.

  • Jody Dayton Peace

    Best post there, Fisto, spot on. One of my all time favorite poems too…

  • Kris Kemp

    awesome post