The Secret to Get the Perfect Girl for You

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The Secret to Get the Perfect Girl for You

get the perfect girl I have spent A LOT of time traveling these last 5 years and I have seen so many girls from so many parts of the world. I have tried dating them and watched others try to date them. I have succeeded and also failed. From all of this what I have learned is how to find the best girls. From this you can figure out how you can get the perfect girl for you.

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The 3 most important things that will help you get the perfect girl

I have found that are 3 main things you have to do to help you get the perfect girl, here they are:


1. Game and putting in the work

This is the foundation of attracting women. If you don’t have game and don’t put in work, you will not get laid, it’s just that simple. I have written 6 game related books (Usually they are 65.94$ total, but if you click here you can get all 6 of my books for 27.99$) and written dozens of articles on the subject, so I won’t be going into game and putting in the work much right now.  Once you have some game, it’s time to go into how to find the perfect girl.


2. The best ways to find this perfect girl

I’ve recently written an article about this and it still holds true. The most effective way to meet the best girls is during day game. Another thing you can add to this is social circle, if you are in the right circles of course. It also matters where you day game. Day game in a church and you will probably find a religious girl, day game in front of an abortion clinic and… well, you know.


3. Communication

The final important thing that will help you get the perfect girl, and the secret, is communication. You may be wondering why I am saying communication is so important. It’s obvious, Right? Well, true, speaking to girls in your home country will never be a problem. However, if you are like me and your native tongue is English, the types of girls who are fluent in English aren’t usually what I would describe as perfect girls. This is why I have turned to traveling.

From traveling I have found so many amazing women, I almost feel guilty not to have settled down with one. Many guys don’t have such good luck and it’s because of one simple reason… they don’t speak the language.

When you travel to a foreign country, there is a certain type of girl who will master the English language (depending on the country of course, but I’m talking about the countries that have the best women). The types of girls who master English have probably already rode the cock of many other foreigners. They learn English because they feel there is something missing from their lives and are hoping the grass is greener on the other side. These are not the best girls.

The best girls are the ones who are happy how their life is. It’s girls who have nothing missing from their lives that turn out to be the most amazing. Whether they be poor or not, a girl who knows how to be happy in her home country, knows how to make a man happy. That’s one of the most important lessons I have learned.

So, the more that a girl wants to meet a foreigner, the less likely I am to want to start up a relationship with her. Meeting these girls who know how to be happy where ever they are can be a problem in a foreign country because you have to speak the language to communicate with them. These girls never had any desire to spend hundreds of hours putting in the work to learn a language that is rarely spoken in their home country.

Then, you have the fact that the most attractive girls simply just don’t put in the time to master a language. I don’t know if it’s because they have had life so easy that they don’t know how or that they simply don’t need to meet a foreigner to have a good life because of all the attention they get from successful locals, but it’s so obvious after traveling; super hot women rarely speak decent English.


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Learn the language

In my opinion, if you want to get the perfect girl for you, you have to speak the language. There is no way around it. You will not get the right type of girls by only speaking English because you are stuck in a niche. This is VERY IMPORTANT because at least for me, the level at which I speak the local language directly correlates with the hotness and quality of girls I am able to get.

Before you start learning the language you have to decide which language to learn. Let me give you a quick guide on what to do:

If you like white girls:

I have spent the last of couple years traveling around Europe and I can tell you right now that the most attractive white women are Russian speaking. Ukrainian, Belarusians, Russians, the list goes on and on. It is the language of hot white women. I’m actually studying Russian right now and I am making progress very fast. I’m doing a combination of movie watching and a program called LangUnlimited where I get unlimited Russian tutoring for paying a monthly fee.

I just slept with a pretty attractive girl speaking only Russian and it felt awesome. This girl is so now very devoted to me, to a point I’m actually not used to seeing. Thank you Russian language. I can only imagine how much this will pay off in the future as my Russian improves even more.

If you like Latin girls:

This one should be obvious, but it’s time to learn Spanish. I have achieved a fluent level in Spanish and it has helped me sooooo much with getting very attractive girls. In fact, the most attractive women I have ever been with have been Latina girls who didn’t speak any English. Hot girls don’t put in the time to learn a language.

If you like Black girls:

Spanish actually kills two birds with one stone here because there are so many black Latinas and because they are the easiest girls in Latin America to get. However, the ultimate language to get the perfect girl who is black would have to be French.

If you like Asian girls:

Asia does not have one centralized language, so I guess it just depends on your preference. I do think this is the smallest return on investment because Asian women are generally quite easy to get. But, as I have been preaching, if you want real quality you are going to have to learn their language.

If you want to get the perfect girl for you start learning a language right now!

When you tell yourself you will learn a language “someday”, it most likely means you will never learn that language. If you want to learn a language, you have to start right now. We live in an information age and it’s very possible to learn a language without actually being in a country that speaks it. If you really want to get the perfect girl for you, decide what type of girl it is you want, download Michel Thomas or get a tutor and start learning the language right now!

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  • anon1

    Great article! How much time does it take to learn a language to the extent that you can carry a conversation and date etc?

    I’m looking at a pool of the following that are in my ‘i should probably learn’ pile:

    Spanish, Arabic, Farsi (Persian), German (i know it but need to brush up), Korean, and i don’t know, lets say French

    I also was curious to know the kind of resources available to learn a language properly by a teacher while you’re in whichever foreign country, does that help with social circle stuff? or not really?


    • Thanks anon. I would say for a language notch for a language like soanish it takes about a month if you arr really studying. to get fluent quite a bit more though.

      I think its important to have a tutor, but also to make sure you are always learning vocabulary and always watching movies/ music in the language. i’m actually working on seducing my tutor. we’ll see how it works out but yes it helps with social circle

    • anon1

      Awesome! Haha

    • If i happens it will probaby be a future article 😉

    • Make it so bro – It’s your job! 😉

    • That’s right. Now i HAVE to make it happen!

  • Ian

    In statistics they say a sample size of 30 is a good indicator of how somethings is going to go.

    I use this for game too-if I do 30 approaches in a city and all or most of them go down in flames I label that city in my mind as a shithole.

    In c and d grade flyover country citites I want to off myself but in Miami or Vegas I’m smiling.

    How has this been for you in your travels 20? With just 30 approaches it shouldn’t take more than 3 days to see if a neighborhood sucks or not for game as I imagine most poosy paradise citites have 2-3 really cool neighborhoods maybe up to 10-15 but let’s say 3 hoods so in one week/7 days you can know if a city sucks for you or not- agree or disagree?

    • I think you are right about a week and the sample size of about 30. sometimes i’m lazy and do maybe a bit too much online, but yes a week of actively searching is enough to get a feel for the city.

      on a side note i have found that about a month and 5 days is perfect for guys looking to chase girls. Too much and you become lazy, too little and you dont have the time for things to develope with enough girls. its also cheap and cofortable because you can het a oknth rental

  • jazz

    Yes I would say Spanish and English are the two most important languages to get the bes lays. Portuguese is also certainly worth it, and French gives you acces to different parts of the world. Russian seems hard to master and is not a place would consider living, but it’s a great skill and advantage if you can speak Russian.

    • Yeah but because when a girl soeaks english she gains access to the entire world, a lot of times Eglish soeaking girls arent the gems. the reason i soeak soanish and russian is because in my opinion they have the best women and places i could live

    • Constipated Canuck

      Not really. Ukrainians, Belorussians, and Russians can’t easily emigrate to the West as they aren’t part of the EU. I don’t know about your theory that hot girls don’t speak English either. I’m in Kiev right now. I would guess if I went up to 10 girls in the street from the 18-29 age range, 7 out of 10 would speak decent English. They all learn it in school now. These girls also like to travel and realize that English is going to get them by in most countries in the world.

      That being said, obviously it’s advantageous to know the local language, especially if you want to hit 2nd or 3rd tier cities looking for the diamonds in the rough. You’ll likely have a better connection with the girl too.

    • yes you’re in kiev. the capital city. ive spent some time there. those are not ideal girls imo. go to some of the other cities and you will see what im talking about

    • Constipated Canuck

      And my point was that pretty much all girls are learning English because they know how advantageous it can be for work in Ukraine or for traveling outside of Ukraine.

      Smart girls are learning English, and this includes hot ones. You’re making it seem like if it’s a good girl she won’t be inclined to learn English when I think it’s the opposite.

      We’re both speaking anecdotally so there is no winning the argument, but I wanted to point out that it might not be quite as you think.

    • jazz

      I understand one point. Often the authentic girls only speak the local language and are not so contaminated by Western culture. English speaking girls often have traveled and have had a better education. But the fact that she speaks English doesnt correlate with the fact that she wants to leave the country for better fortune.

    • and i understand that, but in my experience with girls who speak English well, it does correlate. Especially in Ukraine.

      Of course, as always, there are exceptions. but this is what i have generally seen.

    • My advice is from experience. Study Russian and get to know the girls who don’t speak English and you will see a big difference.

    • Ian

      For some reason this stuck out to me-
      “The schools are a joke”???

      So, the Ukrainian education system is as dumbed down and generally retarded as Americas? Seriously? It’s THAT bad?

      I tell you guys one thing I DONT like is how American music is virtually pervasive globally. Who wants to listen to that Marxist social engineering night and day anyway? Honestly, it’s amazing women abroad aren’t even worse off because of Hollywoods toxic tentacles far reach. Damn I hate the US controlled media and all their noxiousness.

    • Agreed Iain. Hollywood has a monopoly on brain washing. New movies like how to be single… so lame and can really mess up a girl who used to be relationship material.

      About the schools, they are much worse than american schools but not for the reasons that you think. The one huge problem in Ukraine is that it is culturally (although of course against the rules) to pay your your teacher for a good grade. So basically, if you dont want to work, no problem just pay your way through. I think this even affects the students who dont have the money/ genuinely want to learn.

    • yes you’re in kiev. the capital city. ive spent some time there. those are not ideal girls imo. go to some of the other cities and you will see what im talking about

    • Learning Portuguese really pays off in Brazil. It’s worth it. Especially if you already know Spanish, it’s actually quite easy to pick up the language (enough for dating at least).

    • That is true. I haven’t been to Brazil yet however, I have talked to my friends who are Cape Verdean and Brazilian and I can understand when they’re speaking to their families for the most part.

    • I’m thinking brazil next year. i’ll put in a month or two of portuguese study before hand. It is my responsibility as a swoop writer to visit all pussy paradises 😉

  • Kevo4ever

    Hey 20 do you know of any black guys who crush it while traveling to other countries? I’m not well traveled yet, so I don’t know of any social stigmas places may have. For example, some places in Asia where people may have never even seen a black guy before.

    • Black guys don’t do great in asia is large part because of their white skin obsession and that there are usually a decent amount of black guys from africa around. that being said i met an american black guy in philippines doing well.

      I still think that black guys do the most damage in europe. In my experience thats the case. I had a black friend who would clean up online because there are a lot of girls really interested in black guys but would prefer to do it bebind closes doors because of judgements (depends on which european country though like germany they dont care as much about discretion). But yeah in Europe ive seen black guys clean up more than any anywhere else.

    • Jody Dayton Peace

      Actually, though it should be obvious, black guys from North America really do best while on holiday in Africa. The local girls all see the US blacks as role models and popular culture heroes. They see an opportunity to get with somebody who has some similar understanding and who may also offer them a future life of adventure outside of the village or township.

    • hmmm it makes sense Jody. THC and i will take a trip to Africa before long. So much to find out about africa

  • Joe

    20 I wish finding the perfect girl was this fun-

    • haha joe ive seen that video and yes, it does look like fun ;). but thats pretty much just day game (although maybe not the best strategy). that type of grinding will help you get there

  • JBPoqueliche

    Great article. You said it all in a record number of words. Game, language skills and logistics put together = guaranteed success!

    • Thanks JB. doing what i can to get guys laid 😉

  • DerWeltenbummler!

    I am pretty sure Nelson Mandela would have agreed with you:

    “If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head.
    If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart”

    It has happened several times to me that I was on holiday abroad, thousands of miles away from my beloved “Heimat” (home) and I heard someone around me having a conversation in my native tongue with my region’s dialect.

    Wow! What a powerful feeling that is…I immediately get a feeling of nostalgia and have to think of the people and places that I have left behind, whether it is that ice-cream shop where I used to go with my friends after school or my family and friends. It is a feeling of nostalgia and comfort at the same time.

    Don’t get me wrong: I love travelling, but on these occasions I get reminded that I have also left some things behind that I love.

    Language is such a powerful tool!

    • Wow well said. A really powerful comment about the the power of a native tongue. I honestly never thought about the nostalgia aspect.

    • Great comment, in fact that reminds me of a book called the five love languages. Great book

  • Johnny

    I just read the comparisons of Poosy Paradise regions. What race of girls tend to be the best lays? For me, pussy quality (literally the pussy) is everything. What are the general patterns among the races-what race tends to be tightest, juiciest, rides the best, etc. Are Latinas the best lays on average? Also, Would you rather at the end of the day have a 6 who performs in bed like a 9 over a 9 in looks who’s a 5’or 6 in bedroom performance?

    • it really depends on the girl. but i would say that hands down the tightest pussies are asian girls

    • Johnny

      Does tightest equal best lays on average?

    • I would say no because there are so many factors that go into a great lay, but I will say that it pretty much always makes the sex better