Where does nearly all of the attraction from your body language come from?

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Where does nearly all of the attraction from your body language come from?

Body language is probably the most important factor in determining whether a girl is attracted to you. Body language alone can help an ugly man score a hot woman or a poor man score a rich woman. I have seen it with my own eyes.

I have done experiments practicing bad body language, then practicing good body language and watching her attentions do a 360. The interaction went from her barely responding to me to her chasing after me, giggling and asking me question after question. I looked exactly the same as I did moments before, I made the same amount of money, I was just as tall, as handsome, as strong, but changing one thing… I was able to win this girl over.

It’s clear, body language is like man’s magical power. It can be used to get special treatment anywhere you go or it can be used to get into a girls pants. But when I ask most people what body language is, they almost always talk about posture.

Most people understand that having good body language is important and the most they know about it is to have good posture. This is part of good body language, but it is not near as important as many other things.

In fact, there is one part of your body where the body language signals make up 10 times more than any other place on your body. Mastering body language on this one small part of your body alone can turn a girl who has no interest into you into a girl who can’t stay away from you. Can you guess where it is?

When you are talking to a girl, what is it that most of her brain function is focused on? Your posture? If you have smooth movements? Your rate of speech? No. People believe what they see, before anything else so listening is secondary. They are also not thinking about your posture or your movements for more than a moment. What they are constantly focused on is what happens on your face.

 

Why?

In a conversation with a girl, her eyes will probably be on your face over 95% of the interaction. So, if you will master any part of body language, you want it to be what happens on your face.

It is the most difficult part to master, but it also has the biggest reward. How you smile, how you laugh, when you smile, how you look at her, how you hold your eyes, if you raise your eye brows. Facial body language is complex, but powerful.

 

facial body language

Teaching you how to master facial body language

First you need to know the thought process behind what types of looks you should have behind your facial expressions. These are the main things that should be showing on your face when talking to a girl. Showing and feeling these things will go hand and hand. If you fake them on your face, you will start to feel them. If you feel them, they will start to show up on your face.

 

Confidence, near cockiness

Having a vibe that is confident, near cocky, are things that make a huge difference. You want this to behind every facial expression you make. A smirk is a powerful tool in a facial body language repertoire as well as a simple confident smile.

 

Fun

Having a fun vibe is something that ALL women love. Most women don’t need the same things they have needed for hundreds of thousands of years ie money, dangerous and strong man, etc. So although those attraction triggers are still part of their instincts (read more about these concepts of attraction here), their importance is not as high up as having a guy that is fun to be around.

To be seen as fun you just have to laugh and smile. It’s that simple, but it also has to do with the type of laugh, type of smile and how genuine it seems.

 

Genuinity of your facial expressions

The genuinity of your facial body language is very important because of how often people try to fake these things. You can’t fall into that category because it will not incite any emotion in the person you are doing it to.

To do these things genuinely, you just need to make sure these emotions affect your entire face. If you smile, it should show very much in your eyes. If you laugh it should show over every muscle in your face, including your eyes.

 

Eye contact

Keeping strong eye contact with a somebody of the opposite sex not only shows eye contact, but it also shows sexual intent. This sexual intent is communicated on a very primal level and that makes it very much more powerful than saying the same thing with words.

You should also be aware of how you hold your eyes when you look at a girl. Ian Somerhalder is a guy that makes women crazy. Why? His eyes. He has blue eyes, which helps, but he’s not the only guy in the world with blue eyes. What sets him apart is that he is always holding his eyes in an attractive way. Either in a smile:

facial body language

 

Or he does it in an intense way:

facial body language

I promise that if you hold your eyes this way while listening to a girl talk, she will have trouble focusing because she will only be thinking about how sexy you look.

 

The right type of smile

This is so important all by itself because a smile affects all of your face and to be confident and fun you will need to spend some time with smiles. I have written a previous article about it here.

There are many types of smiles to be used in different situations, but here is a picture I made a couple years back that can show you the point better than I can explain it.

smile body language

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These 4 attractive ways to smile are eye smirk, lip smirk, teeth smirk and laughter.

These should be the only ways you are smiling, it will make you seem very attractive.

 

Eyebrow raise

Raising your eye brows while also squinting like talked about above is something that women will find irresistible as well. You can do this when she says something interesting or silly.

facial body language

 

 

Timing

Another important part of facial body language is learning the right timing to use these facial expressions. If the timing is right, these facial expressions become even more powerful.

When she is saying something interesting, make sure you are looking at her intensely. When she is trying to be funny, make sure to tease her by raising your eye brows and smiling. When something is funny, laugh.

These are things that you will only learn by getting out there and practicing.

 

Teases with facial body language

I talked about how you can use raised eye brows to tease a girl, but there are many other ways. You can also make a joke, look at her completely seriously, then SLOWLY let a smile cross your face. She will go from wondering if you are serious, to seeing that you are teasing her. When you are teasing her don’t be afraid to laugh, you are a fun guy after all.

 

Acting with facial body language

Another thing you can do is use your facial expressions to act with her, Hollywood style. It’s very powerful and very fun for a girl. You use it a lot with role playing jokes.

If she drops something you could say “What the hell!” and look at her angrily. Then a moment later you slowly start smiling, then laughing.

You could start teasing her about stalking you and you can look at her like you are scared “Everywhere I look there you are; in the street, here in this bar, my bedroom window.” Then you let your scared look turn into a cocky smile.

 

Practice in front of your mirror

These things are VERY important when it comes to women. If you don’t stand in front of your mirror and practice your attractive smile or eyebrow raise, then you are at a huge disadvantage (many women do these types of things).

You should be standing in front of your mirror at least an hour a week. You can have practice conversations with girls. Pretend you are opening them, then tease them, make jokes and try to just look charming and attractive.

 

Learn more about attractive body language

I have spent a lot of time studying these things I really believe it is the secret to getting any girl. You can learn a lot more about body language and how to master it by checking out my book here: The 9 Laws of Attractive Body Language.

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  • Kevin

    What about thinking more positive if you tend to be a negative person? Any ideas on how to change your thinking and state aka inner game for the better?

    • well, it is a habit from a lifetime so no matter what it won’t be easy to change. But all habits can be changed. I would start small and put a reminder everywhere you can think of to be positive. Ask your friends/girls to POLITELY tell you when you are being negative, so you can fix it. It’s just a habit in the way you think.

  • Alp

    I have a question to THC, can Ethiopian girls speak English? I wan’t to go to Ethiopia but I want to know if they understand English, I’m going to travel to Ethiopia one day. Sorry for off-topic, just wanna know.

    • THC can chime in, but from what I know. It’s a very low percentage that speak english

  • Hey 20, sometimes while holding eye contact with a girl she says “stop looking at me” I ask why and they say “because, your eyes” as they look away. so I guess I’m doing it right. What do you think? Does this happen to you too?

    • if she is smiling while she says it or laughing then yes. If not, then you should practice how you look at her. If you are doing it anything like the pic above, then you’re in amazing shape

  • Ive read the squinting thing before… Im not trying to dog it but the trick Ive had the most success with is hunching down briefly to get to their exact eye level and actually OPENING my eyes more to deliver a line. Im pretty sure this is a more delicate maneuver as its much harder to fake frame with wide eyes. Throw in a slight head-cock to add flavor. Im not discounting the stonewall facial approach, just trying to give you a little something that has worked for me.

    • you have any photos of guys doing this? I’m curious. Just to clarify though, when most guys try to open their eyes more they actually raise their eyebrows. Are you sure you don’t mean that?

    • Searched for about 20 min online and can’t come across a photo that really depicts the 4-6 inch height difference between men and women. My theory is that the dropping of dominant body posture is overlooked because you are “getting in her face” in a non-agressive way and using pupil dilation (again, hard to fake) to build attraction.

    • and no, the expression I try making in the mirror (ya, I’m a dork) is all wide eye minimal eyebrow. Again, its meant to be a brief moment. Not a long thing.

    • well if you ever see it, link a pic

    • http://images.wisegeek.com/man-and-woman-holding-eye-contact.jpg

      from wise geek haha. distance is right (close) but I think smiling with the eyes is better.

    • yeah it’s good. It’s strong eye contact and you are entering her “sexual space” when you get that close. It’s like the moments before a kiss

  • micoq_szoar

    See? This is why I come to this site–to learn stuff like this. OK, I whack off to the pictures, too, but after that, I read these articles. It turns out my body language has been wrong. I’ve always walked into the room with my back arched and my pelvis thrust forward while holding a picture frame around my crotch. I gather from this article that it’s not a good idea. Who knew?

  • Juicecruise

    Unless and until these posts help in getting the girls go crazy over me the moment they see me on the street, rather than me work for it, i d rather pay the bitch. Period.

    • micoq_szoar

      Wow, somebody is BITTER.

    • Juicecruise

      then many people like the bitterness i guess, to have voted me up. i just don’t like the point that men have to work hard to get the girl. build a good body, learn pick up skills, good body language, charm, wits.. what if there is a way to put this equal or less effort in something else that makes a girl go gaga over you.

    • micoq_szoar

      OK, you seem to want to discuss this seriously, so I’ll break with my normal habit and try to fashion a serious reply. Be gentle–this is my first time.

      Why would you not want to develop your natural talents to their apex–regardless if you were on the hunt for fresh sexual escapades or not? Why be alive if you’re just going to let your ass spread across the sofa as the years go by, spending them with a beer in one hand and the remote in another? Is that living?

      By virtue of the fact that you get up, go out and DO something with your life, you’re going to be more attractive, sexier and more interesting–just for being who you are. This improvement will often manifest itself in new sexual opportunities. All the guys here are doing is showing you how to marshal that improvement into a specific activity–scoring fresh poon. Charm and wits? Hell, that’s just another way of saying that you’re presenting the best version of who you are to intrigue the girl and make a real (even if temporary) connection. It’s the success of that effort that adds to the high of any sexual activity that occurs as a result.

      Yes, you can buy sex. So can the fat lop of shit who earns more than you. By that metric, isn’t he a better man because he has more money–and that’s the field on which you want to compete for pussy, right? Some asshole who might happen to have a middle management job in an insurance company can get better pussy than you. Not because he’s a better man–he just has a bigger wallet.

      Now, how would it feel to score that hot piece of ass without dropping a dime? If you develop what you have and win, that makes you the better man and you’ve actually earned your keep. It’s somewhat akin to relishing vegetables you’ve grown in your garden, or fish you caught yourself. Nothing can replace the experience of eating what you’ve killed. Its the same thing with pussy; you enjoy it because you had to work harder for it and, if we insist upon extending the metaphor, it’s probably “fresher” since fewer guys have had it because it’s harder to get. Any asshole can peel off a few twenties.

    • Juicecruise

      1st para – no comments

      2nd para – we are talking of women here. how are judging me with the sofa, beer and remote ? i have probably been on more adventure trips till date than you would in your entire life. We are talking of women here. Sexual escapades, hell yes ! but that should be as simple as me walking up to a girl on the street and saying – hey, wanna have sex, her saying yes, and we hitting the room for some action. As simple as that.

      3rd para – do you know a simple statistical fact? A person who spends time alone is intelligent, smart and knowledgeable (may not be attractive) than a person who ‘does all of this that the website mentions’ beyond imagination. Which also reminds me of nerds. I just don’t like the point that i have to work to get a girl. Why do men have to be that inferior race. The whole idea is to make the race of men irresistible to women, so if any guy, any guy, just comes over and asks her for sex or a date, she would be desperate enough to say yes.

      4th para – i don’t either want to compete in a group of men with muscle on them, nice haircut, wannabe smooth moves, fake attitude, desperation on their faces..This i would do for self happiness, but never to be a needy person wanting a girl.

      5th para – without dropping a dime? where does the cost of taking her out, buying drinks or dinner maybe, go. or the cost of the amenities utilized to appear attractive? or the cost of the efforts and time put on getting the girl (in case you are a professional like me)? nothing is free in this world. you might get lucky once or twice, but not all the time. Even i get lucky sometimes. I go to a hooker with a mic on, in a country where prostitution is illegal. Ask her for service, she tells rates.. I tell her i am an undercover cop and show her the mic, and tell her i’d have to arrest her. Then make a deal for free sex for an hour ! No money spent. I partially learnt this from a youtube video.
      So you say – Nothing can replace the experience of eating what you’ve killed. Refer my furniture example. You might be able to make the furniture yourself and be happy about it, but it is never going to be as good as the one made by the carpenter at the store. If you want to be satisfied with that, go ahead.

    • For me, paying for sex is just a step above masturbating. Afterwards I feel like shit. Only getting a temporary high of sexual pleasure on not that manly feeling of having conquered something and fulfilled your biological imperative. By the way I only spend about 5$ a date on women over the last couple of years. and like 90% same date lays. Many women will pay for you these days. Most dates I will just go to the park or somewhere public. Paying for shit puts you in a bad position

    • micoq_szoar

      First, thanks for taking the time to reply point-by-point. However:

      “3rd para – do you know a simple statistical fact? A person who spends time alone is intelligent, smart and knowledgeable (may not be attractive) . . . Which also reminds me of nerds.” Not being able to fashion coherent responses with complete sentences is not exactly making your point about intelligence. Furthermore, it’s not true. Studies have demonstrated that those who are perpetually alone have less brain development and are more likely to have physical ailments than those with rich social lives.

      “I just don’t like the point that i have to work to get a girl. Why do men have to be that inferior race. The whole idea is to make the race of men irresistible to women, so if any guy, any guy, just comes over and asks her for sex or a date, she would be desperate enough to say yes.” Wow, just how fucking lazy are you? Do you even bother to get on top, or do you just lay there and make her do all the work? Hell, no wonder you want to be able to order pussy like a pizza: you’re a goddamn couch warrior. Hard to believe the ladies aren’t just lining up to suck your balls.

      “4thpara – i don’t either want to compete in a group of men with muscle on them, nice haircut, wannabe smooth moves, fake attitude, desperation on their faces..This i would do for self happiness, but never to be a needy
      person wanting a girl.” For your approach to work, all men would have to let themselves devolve into worthless blobs. If that’s your thing, hang around the British tourists so that you blend in. BTW, if you were going to work out “for self happiness,” (which I doubt, unless by working out, you mean lift a beer to your mouth with alternating hands) why not make the most of it and use it on the girls?

      “5th para – without dropping a dime? where does the cost of taking her out, buying drinks or dinner maybe, go. or the cost of the amenities utilized to appear attractive? or the cost of the efforts and time put on getting the girl (in case you are a professional like me)? nothing is free in this world.” Right here is where I wonder if maybe you’re just trolling or joking. You can’t be stupid enough to imagine that you wouldn’t buy nice clothes for yourself, even if you weren’t on the hunt for pussy. I mean, you’re a “professional,” right? (Actually, with your writing skills, I highly doubt it, but OK, whatever.) That money would normally be spent. I buy myself dinner and drinks all the time and adding a girl isn’t that much more–certainly not the cost of a professional “short time” or “long time” (which I’m guessing you don’t need). Besides, there’s this thing called the pleasure of her company. You’re not paying for the pussy on a real date; you’re getting company, you’re building a certain amount of regard and you’re getting a chance to brand yourself. If you’re so petty that the prospect of buying dinner without a guarantee of sex makes you cold, fine, but don’t wonder why you’re home alone, whacking it to a beer commercial. These guys here have become rather adept at getting sex without a large financial outlay, but if you read their articles, you’ll see that they still do manage a social connection and they do sometimes treat their dates to whatever they’re having (street food, etc.), so it’s still not paying for snatch.

      “I go to a hooker with a mic on, in a country where prostitution is illegal. Ask her for service, she tells rates.. I tell her i am an undercover cop and show her the mic, and tell her i’d have to arrest her. Then make a deal for free sex for an hour ! No money spent. I partially learnt this from a youtube video.” Clearly, this is such a flawed plan that it must be some kind of joke. How could this work if you’re not even a native? From what I can ascertain, you’re Caucasian and you don’t speak any foreign languages–at least not well. You can’t tell me you go to China or Thailand and pull this off.

      “So you say – Nothing can replace the experience of eating what you’ve killed. Refer my furniture example. You might be able to make the furniture yourself and be happy about it, but it is never going to be as good as the one made by the carpenter at the store. If you want to be satisfied with that, go ahead.” Nice job on mixing your metaphors and not getting the point.

    • Well other posts are for that. But honestly, you would rather pay some girl to pretend to like you rather than improve yourself? The best things in life are not easy.

    • Juicecruise

      pretty much nothing is permanent. you sleep with a girl you picked up with a lot of effort… who genuinely liked you as a person and everything.. but tomorrow she is sleeping with someone else. so all of it is just a distraction. unless your effort has made her like you so much, she is not going see another guy for the rest of her life and will wait for you for eternity… it is equal to paying a girl. Paying a good girl is also not easy. For that you need money.. which you’d only have if you’ve worked hard to earn it. It is almost like – would you want to buy furniture from the shop crafted by the expertise of an expert OR get the tools, wood and waste time making it yourself. I am the former person.

    • Here’s the problem. Having a genuine connection with a girl is nearly a human need. It’s one of the best feelings in the world. You can’t pay for a genuine connection, just sex. You can’t make a girl completely submit to you by paying her, because she’s not submitting to you she’s submitting to money. It’s not equal at all because she won’t feel anything for you. And if a girl leaves you it’s because you stopped gaming her, as so many men do.

    • Juicecruise

      i can prove myself correct. that is why i keep coming back. But i really don’t have that kind of time. But that is my point. I don’t like the sound of the constant hard work of gaming to make a girl stay. And she leaves because she is bored of you or someone has better ‘game’ on offer. the genuine connection has no worth if she will ever quit on you.. when it comes to sex, i relate myself to the characters of the TV series – Spartacus. Just cheat on people, fuck someone’s wife, girlfriend, have a sex slave ?! haha, that kind of shit. I would like to have a genuine connection with a girl – but only if i know for sure that she is going to be there for me no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT ! even if i behave like a prick to her or enrique iglesias proposes to her, or anything. That my friend, is unconditional love. Only that makes me bow. By the way, if THC or you are to come to India, maybe catch up with me. hit me at strict003 (gmail)

    • The whole thing that drives Spartacus is a connection and love. The reason the story moves is because of his love for his wife. He would have died early on if it wasn’t for that. People with genuine connections are all over that TV show. That TV show is right in saying that both sex and genuine connections are what makes a man happy. Saying that you don’t want a genuine connection makes me wonder if you are lying to me or to yourself. You can’t pay for a genuine connection.

  • Stephen

    Genuinity isn’t a word bro.

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