Abstaining from Sex Until Marriage is Retarded

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I once worked with a guy, he was my boss. He was a little geeky, but not a bad looking guy. He would spend a lot of the day complaining about his wife that recently left him. After listening to his rants day after day I finally asked him what happened with her.

He started from the beginning.

He was a religious guy and he believed that he must wait until he was married before having sex. This guy went his entire life without having sex, saving it for his future wife. Then, at the age of 23 he finally got married.

He had went 23 years without sex and he was horny as hell.

“Let’s just say I was beyond ready to lose my virginity.” I remember him saying.

They got married then went straight to their honeymoon. Everything went just as my boss had expected. He finally lost his virginity and he loved it.

Five minutes after his first climax during sex, he was ready for another go. He couldn’t wait to try it again. He climbed on top of his new bride.

“No, I don’t want to have sex right now.”

“But, it’s our honey moon.” He responded, baffled.

“I don’t care, I don’t want to.”

This guy had waited 23 years, married a girl, basically giving her half of all his possessions, just to have sex one time.

This was the perfect indicator of the type of relationship that was to come. As a couple years went by she had sex with him on his birthday and on his birthday, but that was all. Not one time did she agree to sex that wasn’t a special occasion.

Three years went by and by that time the couple had had sex 7 times.

“I’m not happy with you anymore, I want a divorce.”

This religious man, who put up with all sorts of shit from this girl, didn’t even imagine divorcing her because of how against his religion it was. However, this girl of the same religion wasn’t so valiant.

She took half of everything he had and never looked back. He only had the bitter memory of her left, and it was clear from his constant bitching that it haunted him every day.

Theories to why she didn’t want sex

Too big

Well my boss always said “It’s cause I was too big.” It could be that. My cousin married a girl without having sex first. He was pretty big and she was tiny. It hurt her every time they had sex, but she at least tried for him. They eventually ended up getting a divorce (about two years later).

No sexual chemistry

However, based on some of his story it didn’t seem to be that. This girl was not a virgin before the marriage like my boss. She had lost her virginity to her previous boyfriend. Apparently, she had sex with him pretty frequiently. It could be that my boss and his wife just had no sexual chemistry or he did something weird in bed.

Not enough game

My boss also wasn’t the most alpha guy in the world, I would actually describe him as average for a religious guy. It could be that she was with a really alpha ex-boyfriend and my boss just couldn’t get her wet the same way. Maybe he needed to learn some game.

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The truth about abstaining from sex

Whatever the reason, it’s clear that this NEVER would have happened if they would have had sex before committing to something as serious as marriage. My cousins marriage probably never would have happened either if they would have just hopped in bed and got to know each other better.

Sex is such a big part of a relationship, it seems absolutely retarded to ignore the importance and just “hope” that a couples good feelings before marriage will transfer to sexual chemistry or change the size of his dick or size of her pussy.

If a guy is small, he shouldn’t risk marrying a girl with huge pussy genetics when he can marry a tight little Asian girl that will still fit like a glove. If a guy is huge, he shouldn’t risk marrying a girl so small it hurts him every time he tries to fit in, getting blood all over the sheets, when he can find a girl with a bigger pussy. It’s just like puzzle pieces, sometimes they just don’t fit.

It still confuses me why somebody would risk marrying somebody without trying her out. As my brother always said “Why would you buy the car, without giving it a test drive?” Wise words. Give her a test drive gentleman.


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  • Mondevil

    This is so true. I had a religious friend from college that waited his entire life to have sex. Married a girl, then found out she had a really smelly pussy. It made him gag and he would have trouble staying hard during sex. He should have at least fingered her…

    • Sorry for your friend – that made me laugh out loud. Poor guy.

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  • Ovid

    Minority opinion here: I think it can work, IF everything else is ideal. In other words, if (absolutely essential) the girl is a virgin too, if she is from a culture where divorce is simply nonexistent/not an option, and she has cultural and family pressure encouraging her to stay married, rather than leave as soon as her subjective emotional whims suggest to her that she might be “unfulfilled.” In other words, 100 years ago it was a realistic possibility, but nowadays it would be a really bad idea, at least in the Western world. The guy would have to be strong and alpha, the girl would have to be very feminine, and she would have to think about sex in an old-fashioned “married love and babies” sense, not a “female orgasm” sense. To me, marriage is pointless unless a man (and his prospective wife) are doing it to start a family. Otherwise, why bother?

    • Mondevil

      Yeah I agree, but we live in different times where you can’t expect those things. On top of that I would really say it’s better to have a serious relationship, take her virginity, then marry her; in case there are any problems. These days it’s just dangerous when women initiate over 70% of divorces.

    • 20Nation

      Yeah divorce rates are ridiculous these days too. Over 50% including the old people that actually stay together. I would guess it’s like 90% for people in our generation.

    • 20Nation

      Actually I don’t even think it’s a minority opinion. If i lived 100 years ago I’m sure that’s exactly what I would be doing.

  • GetItGoing

    This is a fascinating (albeit very sad, and rage-inducing) subject.

    Given the amount of similar stories I’ve read in marriage forums (I read out of curiousity) this situation is not so uncommon. There’s a subreddit on Reddit.com dedicated to this too, I believe.

    One of the largest ironies in all of this is that his boss, the religious man that he was, firmly believed in the sanctity of marriage and marriage vows. However, it seems that often unfortunately these same men seem to completely overlook that the woman who is denying her man sex is breaking her vows willfully.

    In the real-life cases I’ve heard about, no amount of romantic gestures, helping with cleaning up the house, helping with the kids, gifts, and so on have any effect. If anything, being an awesome husband/boyfriend didn’t do shit with the cold, narcissistic bitch.

    Clearly any woman who behaves in such a way 1) doesn’t value the man or her long-term relationship, 2) likely has personality disorder(s), 3) is, in a way, punishing her man or acting in a round-a-bout way to make him suffer.

    Lots of red pill truth here!
    – Women can only treat you the way you let them
    – Don’t tolerate disrespect
    – Be prepared to walk; why the hell would you stick around and tolerate such bullshit when you know there are plenty of mentally stable, sweet women just dying to meet you?

    It amazes me what men put up with. Of course, I had to learn some hard lessons as well…

    I used to believe the idea of avoiding sex before marriage had moral principles behind it I could get behind-but stories like this-sexual dysfunction and other personality issues-cause me to really rethink things.

    • 20Nation

      great comment and insights. I totally agree

    • GetItGoing

      Thanks. Just observations I’ve found along the way.

      I really do feel bad for men in those situations, as often they’re really sincere, honest men, but sometimes it takes some serious suffering to bring a man to the point where his eyes are opened and he has to face the truth. Then decide to deal with it or not.